True love

Do you believe in it?

I used to be a romantic at heart. I think I read too much. Honestly.I used to think we all had one soul mate in the world and we would be destined to meet, etc, etc.

Now I tend towards believing there are many possible soulmates for us out there. After all, it’s the only realistic possibility. We can’t all have just the one – we’d never meet “the one for us”. The world’s just too enormous. I guess I could go one step further and say soulmates don’t exist, just “the right people at the right time in your life”…but I’m not quite ready to be that cynical.

I bring this up because one of my friends is considering getting married. She went overseas to work for a few months and fell for a guy. He’s seven years older, doesn’t speak all that much English….but they connected.

I don’t know. I haven’t met him, though if he comes over at Christmas like she wants, I guess I will. She says she wants us to all tell her what we honestly think of him – but I doubt she’ll listen. I want to like him, but from what we all know, they just sound too different. All us girls are sceptical, and we don’t trust the sounds of this. I don’t think her parents are too thrilled either, but are starting to sound more resigned to the possibility.

She’s just a hopeless romantic. And I think that she is somewhat afraid to let go, because she wants to settle down young and have a family, and thinks she might not find another person? But then again, she says she’s also holding back a little because she isn’t sure what the future holds – what if she finds her real soulmate in a few years?

3 thoughts on “True love

  • Reply Enza July 26, 2009 at 22:48

    One of my girlfriends fell in love with a guy she met in Brazil. A beautiful man, far more beautiful than my friend, if I was being completely honest. They got married and settled in Christchurch. They split up after just three years. He went to Australia.

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  • Reply Jaime March 15, 2011 at 21:45

    Yes I believe in true love but not soul mates. I believe true love is any kind of healthy relationship. By healthy I mean you respect each other, love each other, forgive each other, etc. It helps to have things in common too, studies show that relationships last if both of you are similar.

    Its rare for opposites to have relationships that last but they are out there. These people are an anomaly. I also read that if both of you have a college education and if you also date someone that is on your same level of looks that helps too. That way one person doesn’t feel like they’re too ugly or too beautiful to be with their mate.

    There are many good people in the world that you could have potential relationships with.

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