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Oh hi there. I feel a bit naked after that epic vent earlier this week (which was extremely cathartic, and thank you for lending your ears). I hate uncertainty and I hate the feeling of the future slipping further away with every day that the status quo continues.

Normally I consider myself pretty good at coping with pressure/stress. When I went on sabbatical to travel last year they went through not 1, not 2, but 3 replacements for me, so I swear I am not an incompetent petal. But apparently I don’t do so great when it’s to do with my personal life, and obviously I am just at my limit. Proof: I teared up at work when I saw this in my tweet stream this week. I don’t even know why.

Tomorrow is T’s birthday. Like mine, it’s inevitably going to be a massive step down after the past two years (New York and a South Island road trip), coupled with the current situation. But it is what it is.

Also, there was a death in his family this week. When it rains, it pours…. The funeral was a strange occasion – too many cigarettes and mullets, not enough shoes or parental control (kids running around grabbing flowers and toys off random graves?! Nuh uh) but at the end, there was hangi and the best damn raw fish salad I’ve ever had. And it provided a bit of perspective, too.

This week’s links

A couple of takes on whistling and catcalling (which annoy me no end) – A flowchart and some thoughts on how privilege plays into this

Nomad Wallet ponders whether taking sabbaticals to travel is worth it

At Thought Catalog, Nomadic Matt reminds us that the grass is never greener on the other side

Jezebel on dating up and dating down. Insightful comments going on, too

Tonya on drawing the line between things that are hard but worthy, and things you just don’t want to pursue anymore

What are you REALLY seeking at work? Via Seth Godin

Stephany on being a highly sensitive person

A budget travel guide to the Maldives, from Never Ending Footsteps

A tale to tell for years to come: The best time I thought I was going to die in the Italian woods (took me right back to those sweaty, stressful, halcyon days navigating trains in Italy)

The ultimate guide to baking cookies. No joke

At the Vulture: Debating the merits of Rory Gilmore’s boyfriends. Just because

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Spotify Friday is now a thing at the office. It’s awesome.

Since I never listen to the radio, I never really know what’s new, or who sings what.

This is a song I would 100 percent have said was local – it has a pretty kiwi vibe and sound. But no. Nice one Canada!

This time last year: We were in Iceland! (Where I felt right at home, if only it wasn’t so cold…) Now, I’m off to vote.

This week’s links

Great minds

Just the other day I blogged about communicating and the futility of forcing anything on others. This week Jess Lively wrote about how trying to control people doesn’t work

Rachel Hills and I have been blogging for almost the same amount of time. And this week we both reflected on the journey (here’s mine)

Earlier this week I wrote about toxic bosses; here’s a handy LinkedIn post about how to deal with destructive workplaces

The best of the rest

Musical Poem reflects on growing up biracial

Oldie, but new to me – Mark Manson’s 6 healthy relationship habits

Neurotic Workaholic lists out the things she wishes she was brave enough to say

Reassurance over at Stratejoy: For now, you’re doing exactly what you need to be doing

Why you should give up on being the best, at The Broke and Beautiful Life

Add Vodka asks: what goals have you talked yourself out of lately?

How to actually change your habits, at A Life Less Bullshit

Some little changes to make life more interesting, at Yes and Yes

Lots of deep ponderings, I know. Happy weekends!

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Oh, what a week.

The highlight of my week was: A kid just passing by, who stopped when he saw me arguing with a bus driver, to try and help me. I wish I’d been more appreciative of his effort, but at the time I was too steaming mad…

The low of my week was: Dealing with that twat of a bus driver. I came pretty close to busting out the c-word; that’s how close to the edge I’ve been operating lately stress-wise and this incident nearly pushed me over. Here’s the account of events that I emailed to Auckland Transport as a complaint:

Auckland Transport - Bus driver complaint

While it only added maybe 10 minutes to my journey home as another bus came along soon, and didn’t cost me any more as I had an unlimited monthly pass, it’s the bloody principle. I call UNACCEPTABLE on the entire thing. I will defend public transport to the death – I’ve relied on it for years – but even I have limits.

It’s a real shame, as literally the night before that incident, I had my BEST ever experience of Auckland transport yet: two trips in close succession, each requiring me to take two separate buses and transfer, but with hardly any wait time in between.

This time last year we were in: Paris, one of my favourite cities ever. I had a particularly strong burst of nostalgia yesterday standing in line at the French cafe next door to work …

This week’s links

Sarah Somewhere on finding peace

Michelle at FitnPoor calls quits on obsessing about her blog stats

Over at Musical Poem: How to spend 48 hours in Washington DC

Agreed on most counts! Things to know before embarking on a RTW trip, by Landing Standing

A rare gem on LinkedIn on the career myth that’s hurting millennials: “Happiness is fleeting, and cannot be achieved by finding that one catch-all job.”

Happy weekends!

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Guys, it’s been a hard week. One of those weeks where I’ve retreated into myself and felt really alone – there’s nobody I want to talk to about it and I haven’t even wanted to write about it just yet.

At this stage, I think I’d rather be back in Italy among the sticky fig trees and blasted horse dung and cleaning the chicken coop and at the topless beach that wasn’t. Yep, even in the 30-40 degree heat (I’d never gotten so sweaty in my life) – though on the plus side Europe has a much stronger ozone layer, so I never got burnt like I would here at home.

This week’s links

The two golden rules to travelling while in debt, via Nomad Wallet

The Billfold on accepting financial assistance from your parents (I used to be super staunch about independence but life has beaten me down; I sure as well would accept help nowadays)

Cordelia Calls it Quits is quitting the entrepreneurial rat race

James Robinson on Medium muses about life in NZ vs the US

Thoughts on culture, race and identity, from My Name is Elizabeth

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Like a lot of people my age, I’m not feeling particularly inspired by any of our political parties right now. Three years ago I didn’t care very much about voting – I barely remember who I voted for. Politics seemed so far removed from my life. What could the government possibly do for me?

Things are so different this year. With just a few weeks till the big day, I realised I’d been holding my breath for some amazing housing policy to come out from some direction . None really has.

Look, I don’t know what policy I want to see; I’m not an expert. (Do first home buyer subsidies work or do they actually backfire? Logically it seems to me they might work in the short term though probably not in the long run – but what do I know? What about a capital gains tax? Again, I’m certainly not qualified to say – I’m not sure if it would do anything to fix our crazy property market, but it does seem weird that we are so out of step with other countries on this by not having a capital gains tax.) All I know is there are sharper minds than mine out there and a big problem to solve: a growing population and not enough houses. Rentals are of disgraceful standards and rents are only increasing. Purchase prices are spiralling; mostly people already on the ladder, who can use their current equity, can buy.

This passage jumped out at me from a post I read this week:

As the world urbanizes, we need to start thinking about how to make cities better, not simply bigger. The primary goal of a city should not be to enrich already wealthy landlords and construction companies…  Urbanism should not be defined by the egos of planners, architects, politicians, or the über-rich but by what works best for the most people.

And with that, to the rest of the links…

A guide to investing in ETFs in New Zealand and Australia – thanks Save Spend Splurge!

Some tips from Landing Standing on recreating meals from your travels at home

Leslie on the difference between giving to/helping out a parent

The best way to be your own boss? Sell advice on how to be your own boss (hah) quoting 3 bloggers I follow – via The New Republic

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Hidey ho, friends!

I can’t remember the last time I went out on a Friday night but I haven’t had so much fun in ages, money be damned. Weekend nights are about the worst time to go out for dinner and a movie but Petra Shawarma was well worth it (typically small NZ portions though) as was The Dark Horse. A stunning, unflinching piece of NZ film work and one I’m so glad we supported it by going to see it at a cinema. Five stars.

In fact, we went to TWO movies this week. Guardians of the Galaxy was nothing like what I expected. Silly good fun, with the most epic soundtrack and music nicely woven into the overall storyline.

Blast from the past

Wow – last time this year we were roasting in Italy. This year, I’ve been thinking about: spending money to get out of the country, eat well and stay warm.

This week’s links

Back in Toronto, Steph at 20 Years Hence reflects on two years of continuous travel

Bridget at Money After Graduation and I agree on this: Your ability to be frugal is limited; your earning potential is not

Paula on the downsides of digital nomadism (slow clap)

An insight into how a chronically ill person does money

Let’s be real: how would you feel if your daughter was a porn star?

100 awesome, groundbreaking women - a worthy Buzzfeed listicle!

Funny About Money on the stuff you just can’t get anymore

The good and bad of a spender/saver relationship, at Making Sense of Cents

I was fascinated by this Ask A Manager thread on moving from white collar to blue collar 

 10 ways you’re making your marriage harder than it needs to be, via A Terrible Husband

The two sides of the freelancing coin, via The Billfold: “I miss having a job I cared so much about. That job felt like it was my career. It felt like I was going somewhere. I don’t know where there is for a freelance copyeditor, fact-checker, and writer to go except on to the next job, the next hustle.”

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Oh, the irony.

When I was 16, I wanted to stay up late, have plans every Friday and Saturday night, drink booze. Now the mere thought of all of these three things exhausts me. Ten years on, here I am on a Friday night wanting nothing more than to read a few chapters of my book and be tucked in by 10pm. (I haven’t been sleeping well at all, so I desperately need to catch up this weekend!)

How things change with age.

This week’s links

This almost brought a tear to my eye: How Cho Chang does money (Personal finance fanfic – awesomer than it sounds)

When self-worth and happiness are at odds with each other, by the Broke and Beautiful Life

Neurotic Workaholic on the things that make her feel both old and young

Over at Jezebel: A conversation about friendly catcalling with my husband

Nerd’s Eye View offers a sharp take on the (un)economics of travel writing (the comments are also informed and spot on about the industry as a whole)

How to make your boss adore you, via Ask a Manager

Tales from the Auckland housing market – specifically, the auction room

Where do our earliest memories go? This makes me feel a lot better about my lack of childhood memories (I must have pretty bad childhood amnesia)

Michelle at Shop My Closet Project is over your economic pessimism

Digital decluttering with Blonde on a Budget

Budget and the Beach asks: When life is so uncertain, why do we wait?

Manda at Musical Poem ponders what it means to be mediocre

And at A Practical Wedding, some musings on what it means to ‘settle’ (What is the optimum level of happy?!)

Finally, I can’t believe I’m linking to Business Insider, but … here are 7 things people pretend to like – enjoy!

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I spoke too soon! Winter ain’t over till it’s over, and I’m sick again so it definitely ain’t over yet. Really wishing we were back in Greece right now like last year.

I trust you are all in better health than I am.

This week’s links

A few of you had questions about building standards and insulation in NZ on my Generation Rent post, which I quite frankly couldn’t be bothered researching. But then lo and behold, this Reddit thread popped up, and sheds a little light on this

Every word in this post made me ache to return to Italy for a bit

A gem from Cash Cow Couple: Converting your spouse from spender to saver

Notes on life and such at Greatest Escapist, on the eve of turning 30

And the Broke and Beautiful Life on abandoning self-imposed deadlines

Finally, at Inc: Your life does not have to be your work

“One of the most critical choices you’ll need to make when you start out in your career is exactly what kind of person you want to be. I think it’s somewhat back in fashion these days to be a workaholic. For some of us it never went out of style. Almost everyone today wants to be an entrepreneur, build a business, and be a big honking overnight success. But that’s only part of the story. Ultimately it’s not about making money, it’s about making a difference. It’s also about more than making a living: It’s about making a life. And the “you” that you become is a big part of the life you build outside the office, as well as within your business.”

 

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Hullo! I quite like Cait’s weekly post where she mentions the highlights of her week, so I might copy her style today.

The low of my week was making a hard decision with T. Not an ideal outcome, but best of a bad situation. Nonetheless, we’re feeling good. Somehow, being in control makes it feel so much better than when it happens TO you. Not ready to discuss yet, though.

The high of my week was quite a few, actually! T’s watch that he accidentally left behind in Italy finally arrived (we made several attempts to get it back starting, well, as soon as we left Italy. But for various reasons all of those failed, and the fact T didn’t really endear himself to our host while we were there no doubt didn’t help). I just passed the 3-month mark at work – while I did not have a 90-day trial period, it’s still a milestone IMO. Still loving it and can’t believe I found a coworker who shares the exact same taste in music (and yes, we sit next to each other). Also went for the first/only run of July – feels like the coldest part of winter may be over – and the soles of my new Nike Flex make it feel like running on a springy cloud. Not so sure about the upper/side parts of the shoe. Full judgement reserved.

My plans this weekend include listening to awesome music on YouTube and playing some guitar (As if Toronto wasn’t already cool enough, I just learned that Motion Device, possibly the coolest ever kid band, is from there!)

This week’s links

What really matters in a relationship, via Musical Poem

L Bee shares her personal money nightmare

Feeling Michelle on this right now – letting money control my life 

One of the best things on feminism I’ve read in awhile, by the Bloggess

And a travel writer who’s become a travel writing sceptic

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A few weeks ago I came across what just might be one of my favourite Quora threads ever: What is the most unfair advantage a person can have? 

I tend to agree with #2 answer – not needing  a lot of sleep – as someone who is a fairly low-energy person most of the time. I’ve always been someone who needs a minimum of 8 hours a night and gets stressed out if I have more than a couple of things on (outside of work) in a week.

What do you reckon?

This week’s links

Blast from the past: This time last year we were heading down towards the Mediterranean, having covered Berlin, Munich, Prague and stopping in Switzerland too.

A lovely post about a couple struggling to compromise on what city to live in; her description of her partner struck me as being a lot like me (perhaps why I felt like New York and me clicked right away). “She is the kind of introvert that likes being around a lot of acquaintances and activity partners while doing a lot of not-talking to them, and New York works pretty well for that.”

Oh, how this Billfold piece on pillows cracked me up. Ours always get disgusting in a matter of months, so I am committing to replacing ours at the one-year mark (they’re about 6 months old right now) – how often do you buy new ones?

Here is a really insightful piece on selling yourself as a job candidate and how much social status counts for

From Tiny Apartment: Playing parents for two weeks is overwhelming

Sometimes wealthy people are seriously out of touch, as Donna Freedman writes

Seriously helpful: How to nab international clients, over at Make a Living Writing

A confession at Makeup and Mirtazapine: I used to be a bad feminist

Nicole and Maggie tackle the other side of the tiny housing movement 

My Pretty Pennies’ best tips for travelling with a partner (and here are mine)

A few things a wife should just let go, at Newlyweds on a Budget

For real: An interview with a computer engineer who’s also a poet

I think it’s nothing short of awesome that writers are starting to talk about what they earn

Ira Glass is everything. Here he is on writing, work and creativity

I also find that somehow, the way I’m built, the hardest part of my job is simply to shift from one task to the next. The new task is like icy water you have to dive into. The old task is a warm bath. It’s especially hard when I know the new task is going to be really difficult, as half of them are. I always have to brace myself.