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Based on purely anecdotal evidence, I’ve reached the conclusion that Kiwis tend to find it easy to adjust to coming home after an extended trip.

Basically every single RTW blog I’ve read (mainly by North Americans) has bemoaned the impossibility of re-acclimatising.

Aside from finding the city really SMALL at first, we felt like we slotted right back in. And I just keep hearing the same kind of thing. I guess we’re lucky to live in a relatively awesome place, expensive though it may be.

This week’s links

It’s time to forgive yourself

Chasing that sweet travel high

The tools at your financial disposal

Have those big conversations in the car

What a decade of earnings actually adds up to

 Happy weekends!

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Soooo, we’re well and truly into 2015!

To say it’s been eventful so far would be an understatement. Unfortunately, that looks set to continue for the next little while. The only thing keeping me sane is getting out into nature. Luckily this week I got to go out on a boat cruise on the harbour, and hiked about half of the stunning Te Henga Walkway (good practice for the Tongariro Crossing at some point).

This week’s links

An unhealthy obsession with job hunting

Fessing up to financial secrets

It costs nothing to be a better person

Growing a business – but at what cost?

Life lessons by way of cultural/generational difference

The secret to surviving any travel adventure

And finally, here I am offering my top recommendation for travel destinations in 2015, along with some other kiwi bloggers

The best of: 2010-2014

The best of NZ Muse

One thing the past year has really hammered home for me is that I’ll never be happy with my writing. It is so hard to cover all bases, every possible detail, nuance, interpretation. I may think I killed it with a piece that exploded from my fingers, fast and furious, but find myself clarifying and expanding on points in response to various comments -and that feels like a communication fail.

One of the things I love most is writing stuff that resonates with other people. It’s not the kind of thing you can do every day (at least, I can’t). With the year about to end, I thought it’d be a nice time to look back on some of my favourite posts.

2010

On choices, mortality, and nearly losing it all

Dreams. It’s funny how they change

2011

My first love was a practice run

The ‘job that you wake up excited for’ propaganda

Making your way in the white collar world

2012

Learning to take criticism

Knowing your limits vs stretching your limits

2013

Post wedding reflections

Seven lessons I’ve learned from travelling

2014

Travel snobbery I’m so over

What it’s like to settle down after travelling the world

When the darkness threatens to swallow you whole

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How was your Christmas, on a scale of 1 to 10?

I would probably rank mine solidly average. I’m glad the actual day is over.

My mandate these holidays is twofold: RELAX, and STOCKTAKE.

I’m not checking work emails, and I wrapped up all my freelance projects as early in the month as I could.

We need to gather up documentation and see what we can do to recover the outstanding reimbursements owed by Terrible Ex Boss.

Speaking of terrible bosses, I’m gutted that a job T interviewed for last week – one just perfectly matched to his work experience/skillset – seemed to be run by a nightmare of an owner. Is it so hard to find a decent company and a non-psycho boss?

I also did a bit of an audit  on all our financial accounts. No surprise, we are still a long way off a down payment – but at least I know the numbers now.

In browsing TradeMe - the site where almost literally everything gets listed for sale in NZ, from the crap in the spare closets you want to offload, through to vehicles and houses – I’ve come to the conclusion that everything is either overpriced, or suspiciously low priced. If it’s too cheap you wonder what’s wrong with it – is it too good to be true? Is the car in rough shape, or was the house a meth lab/part of the leaky building wave?

Just one link this week: a love letter to the internet.

Creating my own elaborate websites about myself was outrageously, hilariously narcissistic in hindsight. But building my own sites gave me the ability to tell people who I was in a way that I could control. It also allowed me to look at myself in a positive way, something that was missing when I looked in the mirror. I liked the me I was on the web. I still do.

I’ve always wondered about the assumption that our online personas are more fake than our physical ones. I often feel awkward and nervous in real-life situations; I almost always feel like I’m saying the wrong thing and am unable to articulate what I really think and feel. Online, I have plenty of time and unlimited space to consider what to say and how to express myself. It’s an advantage that makes me feel more like myself, not less so.

Straight from my own head.

Why I’ll never make it to the blogging big leagues

I feel something so right in doing the wrong thingYou know when experts say certain things are must-dos? Well, there’s a lot of these that I am personally not into, and thus will not be doing in the foreseeable future – even if they work.

Sticking to a single niche

HA. Maybe in another life.

Popups asking you to subscribe

Do unto others what you have them do unto you.

Email lists

In my experience too often email lists are crap – people do them because they ‘should’ but don’t actually have anything worth offering.

Video

I may be in the minority but I know I’m not alone in shunning video content for the most part. I’m not into vlogs. I’m a word person. Unless there is a damn good reason to present it in video form, I want to consume your content in written form, thanks. In my experience working in online media, too often people do video for the sake of it, not because it’s actually the best medium for the specific content.

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I’ve always hated taking pills. For the longest time I simply couldn’t swallow time. I’ve gotten over that hurdle now, but I still have a mental block in the that regard. I think this distaste for medication is one of the weird things passed down to me by my mother.
I’m all for doing whatever it takes to control major things like crippling acne or terrible periods – but everyday maladies I tend to wait out. Headaches, colds, whatever.

Now that hayfever season has come around again, I’m reluctantly admitting that I need the drugs. I need them every year and I’m almost certainly going to need to take them for the rest of my life.

Much as I hate relying on medication to get through daily life, I don’t think I have much of a choice. Why go through misery and suffering when there’s a fix for it?

This week’s links

How to double your salary: Some solid career advice

The slow burn of financial education

Travelling isn’t really all that glamorous

On making money, unapologetically

The rules of creative success in the digital age

Cultivating an attitude of abundance

What to do in that weird week between Christmas and New Year

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PSA: If you’re on the hunt for an offbeat movie to watch, look up What We Do in the Shadows. It’s been on my radar for awhile – made by and starring some of our top film/comedic talent, it took out a People’s Choice Award at the Toronto Film Festival. I FINALLY got around to watching it the other day, and all I can really say is wow. It’s so bizarre, so very Kiwi, and just … original. It won’t be for everyone, that is for sure.

This week’s links

Unsuccessful pickup lines used on Asians. White people: stop ni hao-ing anyone who looks vaguely Oriental. kthxbai

On battling feelings of inferiority

A life of renting is dark and dismal

Odd friendships you probably have in your life

Healing through pop music 

A roundup of great writing on women and gender

One of the best pieces of advice ever: Be the person you needed when you were younger

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  • I am sad and angry. For women everywhere, who are victims of assault and harassment. For people of colour everywhere. For my fellow citizens, and the politicians we’re stuck with. Is there anywhere in the world where things are headed in the right direction? (It doesn’t seem that way)
  • Now I’m in more of a traditional workplace, I find myself reading Ask a Manager religiously – it’s really valuable to me. Recent posts got me thinking about the value of face time, and the practicalities of the fabled ‘results only work environment’. How many actually have finite, quantifiable workloads? And how do you ensure fair workloads when individuals within a team have quite different roles and types of work?
  • People always say that short hair takes more work, but for me it’s so much more low maintenance. Half the time I don’t even brush it – I’m good to go in the morning. Is it just my hair type?

I really need to put the Toast on my daily reading list, otherwise I miss gems like fictional characters who would have benefited from abortions

Montana, you are beautiful, even if you look damn cold (via Sarah Somewhere)

An amazing pilgrimage through the Italian countryside, at Fearful Adventurer

I am still loving and mulling over Mutant Supermodel’s take on positive psychology

A little love letter from afar, by The Asian Pear

From A Practical Wedding: Sometimes work is just… work.

“And while that sounds terrible, in reality, it’s a good thing. It takes a lot of emotional energy to do the kind of work that feeds your soul, 365 days a year. And sometimes you just want to do a little data entry while listening to Serial, and maybe have time to debate it afterward with your co-workers.”

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Not that I needed proof that I am becoming even more introverted every year, but coming off a three day conference confirms it. It was FULL ON – being around people every waking hour, and these were LONG days starting early and finishing late. When I found myself alone in the bathroom – a rarity – I took the chance to hide out and linger in a toilet stall (there were usually always long queues for the bathroom). And, now, I would quite like to retreat to a deserted island for the rest of the year.

This week’s links

Remember that you always have a choice, via Tiny Apartment

Obsessions of a Workaholic on crying in public

Landing Standing and the life lessons every long term traveler learns

Life as an undocumented immigrant, via Yes and Yes

Her Evey Cent Counts on the thing about growing up

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I have only three words to describe this month: Go, Go, Go.

On the plus side … I can’t wait to put together a bunch of posts about where I’ve been and what I’ve seen. I <3 NZ.

This week’s links

Are you a ‘glasses person’? Yeah, me too. Nice to know I’m not alone in my feeling that glasses > face and my amazement when people I don’t see that often recognise me in contacts

I think there’s some solid advice here on building a career with stability

Leslie on balancing creation with consumption

An open letter to chaos. Beautiful

Here are 50 things to do instead of spending money

Moving away from your hometown: the gains and losses

And finally, how do you raise a multiracial child?