Link love (powered by stew and strolls)

NZ Muse link loveI think I need to accept that life just never gets easier. Yes, you become stronger and smarter but as your resilience grows, so do the hurdles. Gone are the days of high-school-sized issues and injustices. It doesn’t seem fair, but them’s the breaks.

Women are awesome. My closest IRL friends may be male, and have been incredible supports when I needed it, but there are some things they will simply never understand. From crushes in long term relationships to emotional labour and pulling your financial weight, female friends get the gender dynamics that my dudes don’t.

I’m very passionate about the state of the housing market and the huge effects it has on people’s lives – mostly from a quite personal angle, but also at a more macro, societal level.  A spirited conversation about this at our weekly all staff meeting about this very topic and what it all means for New Zealanders – especially in retirement – got me quite fired up and reaffirms that I’m in the right place (both at work and at home). It’s incredible how much difference it makes being free of the “emotional and financial challenges of renting”, as it was put.

This week’s links

A great post on household division of labour and finances when the woman earns more (because things do not always fall neatly along the lines of High Earning Busy Spouse and Low Earning But With Lots of Flexibility Spouse)

Sherry sums up some thoughts on the circular logic of early retirement/financial independence more eloquently than I ever could have

Sometimes, YOU’RE the rich friend

A couple of  things about poverty

How important is job satisfaction, really?

Graduating beyond frugal habits 

You’re making life harder for yourself

What does money mean to you?

Sometimes less is just less – minimalism within reason, guys

4 thoughts on “Link love (powered by stew and strolls)

  • Reply Donna Freedman April 16, 2016 at 14:30

    Thanks for the shout-out, ma’am.

  • Reply Taylor Lee @ Yuppie Millennial April 16, 2016 at 15:18

    I feel very lucky to have both male and female friends that get the gender dynamics stuff. It’s weird and perhaps not terribly feminist of me to say, but it feels strangely validating when a male friend understands those sorts of frustrations. Then it feels less like I’m complaining to my girl friends sitcom-style and more of a “hey there’s an imbalance here that any person can see, man or woman, which yes is also upheld by systemic cultural issues.”

    • Reply eemusings April 16, 2016 at 15:21

      One of my best mates is very much like this, but I still feel that it’s less empathising and more sympathising. Like there’s just a level that’s beyond and I’m not sure he CAN get to it because he simply won’t ever be quite in these shoes… and say when it comes to discussions like around having kids because he’s not going to be the one physically doing it.

  • Reply Jamie April 16, 2016 at 23:31

    Yay! I love this version of link love. Lots of many good articles!

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