I have never really believed in ultimatums.
But there were no other options left.
If the price of stability and a home was being alone, I realised I would take that deal in a heartbeat. See also: Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.
You need to set your own boundaries; decide:
what you want and need
what you can and cannot accept
what you expect and deserve
It isn’t selfish to put your own oxygen mask on first. To stay true to your own goals. To refuse to allow someone else to derail your dreams and hold you back.
The end of 2015 was a low, low point for us. I think we both found ourselves disappointed in one another, to varying degrees.
It was an opportunity to reevaluate our priorities (or, for me at least, to reinforce mine and validate my decision), and have the space to take a step back and reflect.
Sometimes, you gotta burn things down if there’s going to be any hope of rebuilding them again.