“I’ll take Saturday off if you take Saturday off.”
That’s what he said to me, after a short discussion on how we don’t have enough time to spend with each other.
But me taking Saturday off is not the same as him taking Saturday off. Saturday is a regular working day for me, and not for him. Saturday is an 8-hour day for me, and if he chooses to work Saturday, it’s usually a 6-hour day.
Me taking Saturday off means missing out on a day of double pay; for him, it just means giving up extra “nice to have” cash.
Here’s a little overview of our usual working schedules and how they mesh:
(His working hours are 6-2, but they often work til 5. 11-hour days, eek!)
At least two weekday nights are usually a write off for me due to other commitments. He’s also usually out late one or two nights himself, often on completely different nights. The only blocks of time we really get together for sure are weekend mornings. And that’s why it bugs me when he works Saturdays.
The job that he nearly got before this job would have seen him working the night shift, and would have actually meant more time together (four mornings a week!) Despite that, and the money, I’m kind of glad he didn’t; it would have been quite disruptive and no doubt terrible for his already irregular eating patterns. Not to mention those four mornings would be a tradeoff for basically no waking hours together on the other three days of the week.
Yeah, it’s a pain not having any regular days off together. It means rushed Sunday morning grocery shopping. It means sometimes coming home to a snoring boyfriend and a kitchen full of rubbish and dishes. It means no spontaneous weekend trips.
But it’s a career move, and it means a difference of up to $10k (or more) over a year. I’m going to make the most of it while I can.
Now, I’m sure I’m not the only one out there working conflicting/opposing schedules to their other half. How do you manage your time effectively?