I’ve come to the conclusion that together T and I would make the ideal
Combine his skill with my caution and you would come up with the perfect blend.
T has the confidence, the quick reaction time, the coordination, the spatial perception, the ability to park effortlessly.
But he’s prone to taking too many risks, accelerating and braking too hard – which is just uneconomic in $2-plus-a-litre times – and belongs to the “try to get ahead at any cost” mentality. By that, I mean when stopped at a light, he always edges as humanly close to the car in front as possible without touching (and laughs at me for leaving “enough room to fly a plane” in between cars). On long trips through the single lane country roads, he overtakes cars only to then get stuck behind yet more cars further along the track. It’s a loser’s game, I tell you.
Granted, since he was in a string of accidents a few years ago he’s less reckless on the roads. But fundamentally, we’re opposites behind the wheel.
It’s the same with our personalities and approaches in real life, really.
We even each other out.
Combine his physical attributes (strength, perfect vision, coordination), quick learning, inability to sit still, some kind of charisma with my work ethic, stubbornness, patience, planning, attention to detail and we’d be a pretty formidable superhuman.
Does your driving reflect how you navigate the real world?
On the freeway, I tend to drive fast along with the traffic (75-80 MPH). On surface streets, I generally go just under the limit to catch the timed traffic lights. As I get older, I think I became less aggressive in my driving, but not in life.
My boyfriend has never seen my drive, but I’ve seen him drive so many times that I’m pretty sure we’re the same type of driver. Except that I’m more subtle about it. I speed and tailgate the same, but without the flashing of brights at slow cars or the ridiculously jerky cutting people off and overaccelerating that he does. (Driving in U.A.E. is a lot less tranquil than in America, haha.) I don’t think that’s a reflection of our personalities though, moreso than he grew up driving here where that sort of obvious aggression is normal and I grew up where that’s illegal.
Opposites obviously works for you guys!! that’s awesome when things work out evenly and both parties appreciate each other’s qualities. It’s lovely to hear about after my experiences with opposite personality traits:
My last long-term relationship was one of opposites, too (as could be seen in our driving techniques!), and it just ended in frustration. He came to resent my practicality and attention to detail, and I was unhappy that I couldn’t change myself enough to make him happy. My initial reaction to ‘spontaneous’ is to point out why it won’t work, if I think it won’t work. I also have to think big changes through before I agree to them, normally. In the end, I was too slow and couldn’t do anything right. I’ve come to the conclusion that maybe I need someone more like me (or maybe even a relationship where I’m ‘the fun spontaneous one’). My parents are opposites, too, and I don’t think they are very happy, despite the fact they’ve been married nearly 40 years.
I’m glad that opposites works for some couples, though! you give me hope. 🙂
It works well in terms of cooking, cleaning, socialising. Not so good when I have to sleep under two blankets and him none, or I want to read and he wants attention!
Honestly I think my driving reflects my mood. When I am in a fun carefree mood- I tend to drive 80 down the freeway and take a bit too many reckless turns. However when I am in my uptight- debbie downer mood I tend to drive 60 and slow down if a car is even within a 20 mile radius of crossing my path.
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