October 21, 2015

An ode to spousal unemployment

Fancy running into you again; we really must stop meeting like this.

Stifling silent screams.

Swallowing bitter words

Sleeplessness.

Jaw aches.

Endless fatigue.

Enough for a lifetime.

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17 thoughts on “An ode to spousal unemployment”

Reply Newlyweds on a Budget October 21, 2015 at 11:38

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Reply Abigail @ipickuppennies October 21, 2015 at 11:57

Oof, sorry to hear things are so tough. Tim’s disability means he’s here with me every day. Other than a few trips — maybe a total of 3 months? — Tim and I have been together all day every day for 7 years. It definitely takes its toll. I tell people we’ve actually be married 1/3 longer than most people who married in 2008.

Anyway, point being I can empathize, especially with the financial worry that unemployment causes. Is your spouse seeing a therapist?

There are a lot of feelings of worthlessness and depression that come with unemployment, and it doesn’t help the relationship. Then you’re not just dealing with the exhaustion/financial implications of being the only one working, you’re having to cope with someone who is depressed and who may not be getting the help needed.

I recently found out that Tim’s depression is far worse than I ever imagined. The fibromyalgia med he’s trying is also an anti-depressant, so I hope that helps. Because he gave me a glimpse in, and it’s a pretty dark, deep abyss. No wonder he’s so inert and clingy! Sigh.
Reply Linda October 21, 2015 at 16:20

It sounds like T just can’t catch a break, and you need some de-stress time. I really have no advice, but know that I’m thinking of you both and sending good thoughts your way.
Reply Melanie @ Dear Debt October 21, 2015 at 16:58

Oh dear 🙁 Not a fun place to be. I understand how joblessness/financial stress affect a relationship. Hoping your situation improves soon! xo
Reply Sense October 21, 2015 at 23:59

Good luck to both of you. We’re all here pulling for y’all. I’m sorry this happened yet again–so unfair.
Reply Tonya@Budget and the Beach October 22, 2015 at 02:15

Oh no! This does not sound good. Sorry you’re going through this. 🙁
Reply Hannah October 22, 2015 at 04:16

That just sucks- I’m so sorry. Great poetry though.
Reply Kristin October 22, 2015 at 05:01

Oh I feel your pain. My then BF and myself were both laid off during the recession and it was the worst. I wouldn’t wish that pain on anyone! Sending positive vibes…
Reply Revanche October 22, 2015 at 06:56

You’ve have more than your fair share <3 I wish we could steal you away for a break if that would help anything.
Reply sherry @ save. spend. splurge. October 22, 2015 at 08:55

I’m sorry.
Reply Michelle October 22, 2015 at 10:11

My friend, I am sending you good energy. Make sure that you manage your mental health and physical well-being. It’s not selfish-it’s necessary. Is it possible for you to have a “girl’s weekend?” So that you can have some time to yourself?
Reply Jayson @ Monster Piggy Bank October 22, 2015 at 23:52

One of the financial stressful situation I hate to be in. I am sorry.
Reply Manda | musicalpoem October 23, 2015 at 03:40

Much love.
Reply Life We Learn October 23, 2015 at 11:41

Sorry to hear. Hope things start to get better soon. Take care of yourself!
Reply nicoleandmaggie October 23, 2015 at 12:27

🙁
Reply The Asian Pear October 23, 2015 at 15:33

Sucks. *hugs*
Tell T that I can relate. We just have to hang in there. Hopefully something will turn up for the both of us.
Reply Untemplater October 27, 2015 at 19:39

Oh gosh, so sorry to hear the news. Sending you lots of positive vibes and good luck!