Link love (powered by fires and rain)

• I’ve joined Pinterest – find me here!

• The other week I went to my first ever No Lights No Lycra session. Basically, you get together in a public hall, turn the lights off and dance to music for an hour. Sounds weird but it’s incredibly fun! Look for the Facebook group if you’re interested.

• I realised I’ve been undersalting food all my life and only now am I really starting to understand what a difference salt makes to a dish (no surprise, I’m a far superior food critic than I am a cook)

• At all of my jobs (minus the first) my boss has either left, or gone on parental leave at some point. I inevitably get asked if I’m going to apply for the position – and in every case I’ve had no interest in doing so. Not quite sure what that says about me and my aspirations.

This week’s links

7 fresh ways to save money with heart

The privilege of chasing your dreams

When your romantic partner isn’t holding up their end of the bargain

A fascinating read on class and politics in the Trump era

Money => security => easier to save money

27 lessons about money

(Mostly) free ways to show love

Life lessons from growing up poor

Good vs bad reasons to quit

10 things to know about work by age 30

Banking happiness for tough times

Finally, I’m way late on the party to this one, but for anyone who feels they’re falling behind:

“Most of our unhappiness stems from the belief that our lives should be different than they are. We believe we have control — and our self-loathing and self-hatred comes from this idea that we should be able to change our circumstances, that we should be richer or hotter or better or happier. While self-responsibility is empowering, it can often lead to this resentment and bitterness that none of us need to be holding within us. “