The more I think about committing to a 2013 wedding, the more I swing between feelings of excitement and anticipation, and doubt tinged with dread. The former is self-explanatory. The doubt is related to timing, the dread to the actual process of planning; there are a few details I’m psyched about, the rest sounds like too much hard work, no matter how simple we keep it.
But I suppose I’ve always been a bit conflicted about marriage. As I guest blogged on Jessie’s Money, T’s first proposal didn’t go down so well (I’ll call it a practice run). And then a couple of years passed. I started wondering when I might expect him to do it right, as I thought of it – we talked about the future lots, about kids, about growing old, about how balancing our two families at a wedding might go. Even though I still was in no way ready to contemplate getting married.
I still feel that being engaged is right and exactly where we’re meant to be. So it’s a timing thing. I’m thinking 2013 so our Europe trip can be a honeymoon. But I’m not totally sold and I’m not sure why that is.
Is it because I was rather firmly tethered to the notion of getting hitched close to 30, with housebuying and childbearing following fairly closely after (once I’m wedded to a plan, being wrenched off that path is akin to passing kidney stones, or something hideously painful)?
Is it because I still haven’t gotten over my aversion to the noun “wife”? Do I just not feel old enough to call ourselves a married couple yet?
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