It’s the key to any good relationship.
But what if you’re poles apart in your thinking?
Back in my high school health/sex ed class, we were asked what one should do in a situation where one person wants to do a lot more physically than their partner is ready for.
I don’t remember what the conclusion was, and in fact I’m not sure we actually got around to reaching one.
Still, it’s an interesting question, no? What if two people in a relationship are at very different stages? What if one wants to move overseas/move in together/have a kid/get married and the other … doesn’t? Is meeting somewhere in the middle the best choice then, if it’s even possible – pressing one beyond their comfort limits while the other is just as dissatisfied?
It seems to me, from my limited observations, that time fixes everything. Kinda.
You start with talking it out.
Then there’s panic and disbelief that you could ever be on the same page given how far apart you stand on matters.
Then you wait. Wait and think and wash and rinse and repeat.
Then at some point, it’s crunch time. If said issue is a dealbreaker and neither party’s stance has changed, then one is mostly likely going to walk away.