Where is the line between happy and settling? How do you know if you’re hoping for too much and your expectations are wildly out of line? Is the grass always greener? Can’t I just pause and appreciate what I have? Be cognisant of the here and now?
What’s better: working lots at a job you love but not earning a whole lot, ever? Working lots at a job that pays well, building up serious wealth and retiring early?
Could I ever be a stay-home spouse/parent? Or am I better at playing breadwinner? Is it really such a bad thing to be a good worker?
I’ve had a string of nascent opportunities come my way lately. Practically none have panned out. In one case, I’m actually glad. But I’d really like at least some of the others to have led somewhere. Am I doing something wrong? Is my karma in debt?
It depends on what you want and your priorities, I guess. For me, I know it’s just reality that I won’t get everything I want. I’d rather be poor & happy than rich, stressed, angry and entitled.
I ask myself that same question all the time. I still don’t know the answer. If you come up with something let me know!
I ask myself these questions quiet often as well, I think it is natural. Just take life as it comes and do what feels right.
This post really resonated with me. I think for a lot of time, I was just settling for what I wanted instead of knowing what I actually wanted. Sometimes you just kinda float along without meaning to until something awakens you to realize what the next step, in anything, might be.
I think it depends on what your settling on or settling for. For awhile, I think I was settling in different areas of my life. Sometimes it takes something to awaken us so we can realize what we really want.
In my case, when I stop trying to figure the things out, something usually falls into place that makes me wonder why I stressed myself out wondering in the first place.
I think I ask myself these questions every day and still haven’t figured out the answer. Things just don’t seem to be that cut and dry to me. Right now I am dealing with deciding whether or not to switch jobs for something more rewarding. The glitch is I have a permanent position with a good income right now and the new job would be a term. I will figure it out and make the right decision for me but it isn’t easy.
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