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  • 100 in ’11: Zusak, Shriver and Summers

    Up there behind food, books have to rank as the second love of my life. So, with my 100 books in 2011 challenge in full swing, you’re in for a treat: recaps of some of my best reads every month or so!

    Here are three novels I recently ploughed through:

    The Book Thief – Markus Zusak

    Summary: WWII through the eyes of a young girl and the residents of her sleepy suburban street.

    Despite a slow start, The Book Thief slowly reels you in before proceeding to wring out your heart. I really can’t say more than that. A must-read.

    We Need To Talk About Kevin – Lionel Shriver

    Summary: A mother comes to terms with the fact that her son is a psychopathic mass murderer.

    What shapes us most: nature, or nurture? Are some people just not cut out to be mothers? Can one fake a maternal bond, and what are the consequences when a child feels unloved and unwanted? These are the questions Shriver tackles head-on. Kevin is a bad seed, but his mother is far from blameless. Just how far he will go to take everything she has – until all she has left is him – is as tragic as it is frightening.

    Cracked Up To Be – Courtney Summers

    Summary: Disturbed Miss Perfect finally cracks – but why?

    After such heavy reading, I desperately needed to lighten up. This was the first YA novel I’d touched in forever, and in comparison to what I’d been reading, it seemed insanely short. While the subject matter is dark, Parker is intensely intelligent, self-aware and in possession of a wicked tongue. Watching her manipulate others while trying to come to terms with her buried secret is painful, but Summers makes it clear that there’s hope for Parker yet.

    What have you enjoyed lately – any recommendations?

  • Go and read this book. Immediately

    I must confess that I have long had an aversion to short stories. I quickly become immersed in the world of my characters. I quickly form attachments to these almost-real people, and to their welfare. I loathe ambiguity, and hate being left hanging. Short stories, therefore, have always been avoided.

    The Thing Around Your Neck changed all that. This is the most beautiful, heartbreaking collection of stories I have read in a long time – if not ever. Exploring themes of family, guilt, loneliness, fear, obligation, culture, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie contrasts life in Nigeria with life in the West through a rich cast of (mostly) female narrators, strong, fully fleshed out figures who live life for the most part with what they’re given, because in Africa, to dictate your own life is almost unheard of.

    If like me your world history knowledge, particularly of Africa, is pitiful, you’ll gain so much from her sketches of life in the dusty harmattan, her descriptions of simple food and rich spices, the unfamiliar, many-syllabled names a western tongue trips over.

    I came away feeling the richer for having read it and being a part of those characters’ lives for that brief period. That’s all I could ask for, really.

    And if you want to add me on Goodreads, I am, as always, eemusings.

  • Review: Status Anxiety by Alain de Botton

    I wasn’t quite sure what to expect when I picked up this book. The cover suggested a light, humorous take on consumerist society – an indictment of the whole keeping up with the Jones’ mentality. In fact, it’s a rather scholarly analysis of modern happiness that was much more intelligent than I bargained for and leaves the reader with plenty to mull over.

    Status Anxiety starts off rather dry, but picks up once it begins delving into theories on class and society – think Marx and the like. Feudal society probably sounds awful to you or I – peasants toiling in the fields, medieval landlords lording it over their servants. But he argues that everyone was in fact kinder to one another back then (perhaps as there was virtually no hope of ever escaping your “place”, so those higher up the ladder didn’t feel threatened), and that most people were actually content. It’s a fascinating concept. Everyone knew their place in a hierarchical, class based system, but at the same time, were valued for the role they played.

    Were we really happier before the dawn of capitalism?

    Now anyone can theoretically become anything they want, but failure is like a moral condemnation. And most of us will fail at something at some point. Some failures (failing to lose that last 1.5kg) are no big deal, while others (failing to get a promotion) sting – and they’re much more visible. Our accomplishments, or lack thereof, are an indication of our worth as a human being. Yet isn’t our morality – the content of our character? – a better measure than our worldly feats?

    He writes that we either need to increase our achievements or reduce our desires. Surround ourselves with people on our level: think big fish in a small pond rather than vice versa. Happiness, it seems, is relative. Makes perfect sense to me.

    What do you think? Could or would you be happier in a simpler society?

  • Talking it out

    Continuing on in my vein of chick-lit with a difference, I finished Woman on the Verge of a Nervous Breakdown last month. To start with, it’s kind of autobiographical – it’s in the non fiction section, and it’s based on Lorna Martin’s Grazia (shudder) column Conversations with my Therapist. Although she’s a first time novelist, she happens to be an award winning Observer journalist who’s reported from Bosnia, Albania, Romania, Benin, Malawi, Jamaica and Thailand (talk about an impressive CV!).

    Basically, she seems like the kind of accomplished, together modern woman we all aspire to be. But she’s lonely, stressed, and depressed. Oh, and her relationships with men! She’s brave enough to admit she’s seeing a married man, and to lay it all out on the line – the clinginess, the desperate texts, calls and emails. It was all so self destructive, it was hard to read. For someone so afraid of rejection, she sure didn’t seem to have a problem making a fool of herself (I mean that in the kindest possible way).

    Like many people, she says, she never thought she needed therapy. That was for the weak and needy, the self-absorbed. But as she found out, uncovering memories she didn’t know she had helped her to identify patterns in her life, to deal with issues and learn to like and respect herself again. Apparently, everything we do in our adult lives stems from childhood. This is very much a theme toward the end, as Lorna grows more self-aware, and (a little cringingly) describes herself as learning to be her “own parent”. This was probably the part I least enjoyed .

    (Incidentally…I once harboured ambitions of becoming a psychologist. Nobly, perhaps, I wanted to help others, who didn’t breeze through life, but, like me, stumbled over cracks in the ground, or over their own feet.)

    Looking inward, I don’t think I have to explore very far into my past to see where some of my biggest issues come from. I’ve got an ingrained fear of conflict; I hate arguments and I don’t even like debating with my closest friends. I don’t feel like I was ever taught how to. I was on the debating team briefly in high school, which helped, but growing up, my parents didn’t argue constructively. I have memories of hiding in my room listening to their raised voices through the walls, and feeling a little ball of stress form in my stomach. To this day, when I’m worried or nervous, I feel it in my tummy first. They would not negotiate with me, either: their word was always final and inflexible.

    On a related note (and I don’t know specifically why this is) I have a fear just of speaking up and voicing my opinion. Maybe it’s a fear of being wrong, looking stupid, losing face. After a few years in my current job, and feeling confident in my understanding of our systems and my contributions, I’m a lot better about piping up at work. I also think having a fairly tight-knit and supportive environment in third-year journalism helped my confidence quotient a lot. I still detest public speaking, but thankfully, I’m not in a field where I have to make presentations or give speeches.

    The other thing that cripples me is a fear of criticism. I think I’ve gotten a lot better over the years, but let’s face it, I haven’t had to deal with too much of it. I did well in school and university; I seem to be good at my job. Probably the worst part is under pressure, I blush bright red and start sweating. Even if I’m taking constructive criticism to heart (ie, not personally), I don’t exactly look like I’m keeping my cool…more like I’m about to rush off to the ladies’ for a cry.

    One other thing which stuck with me from the book was the assertion that most people can benefit from some kind of therapy, but that some things are just too painful for some people to deal with- and it can be better for them simply to almost bury it and move on. While generally I think ignoring problems is a bad idea, I kind of agree on this count – but of course, it depends on so many things. I had a patch of trouble with my family towards the end of high school. I moved out on bad terms, made a life for myself and never went back, although I’m sure they envisaged I eventually would. We’ve never really talked it out or acknowledged that time, but I think the distance and independence has done the job. I was angry and hurt for a long time; but now, I can have a conversation with my parents, tolerate their idiosyncracies, and ask for their opinions or advice if I need to.

  • It’s a love story, baby just say yes

    I found myself in tears the other week upon finishing The Bronze Horseman. It is not a short book. Even I, the queen of speedreading, didn’t manage it in one sitting. It’s an astounding novel and despite everything, it is a love story. In fact, it has officially claimed the number one spot on my list of great love tales.

    Despite that, I wouldn’t want to even for a second live it out myself. After all, it takes place in WWII in the Soviet Union, and if you’ve read it – or even know anything about that time in history – you’ll understand.

    It seems to me there are a great many love stories written, and yet, very few are truly happy. Bella and Edward (yes, terrible books, but still IMO a ripper of a love story…). Sayuri and the Chairman in Memoirs of a Geisha. Heck, even Jessica Darling and Marcus in the Sloppy Firsts series  – which I love and obviously reference every chance I get. Even going back to the fairytales of childhood, Cinderella has a miserable lot in life before that damn ball. Snow White and Sleeping Beauty don’t have it all that great, either.

    Maybe without a little adversity in our love stories, they wouldn’t be believeable at all.

    What’s your favourite love story (please don’t say Romeo and Juliet!!), and is it one you would want to live out?

  • Unexpected charges

    I was absolutely stoked to drop by the library to pick up a couple of books I’d put a hold on recently. Why? Because no longer do you have to wait in line and deal with, er, an actual librarian. No, they simply put your requested books out in the open on a ‘hold’ shelf, tagged with your name, in alphabetical order. Do it yourself – and presumably, get away with never being nagged to pay your late fees either!

    For some reason, I also assumed this meant we would no longer be charged a dollar everytime we request a specific book. I’m not sure what gave me that notion, because it’s horribly, wildly wrong. I logged into my library account online and was horrified to see my balance at over $10 (granted half of that is late fees from last year…which I will get around to paying sometime).

    I still have more than 14 books left on my reading list. For those of you who actually purchase books, maybe $14 doesn’t sound like a lot (and as an avid reader and book lover maybe it shouldn’t be. But I’m not a buyer – I devour them and move on – there’s just no way I can afford a minimum o$30 a pop for a shiny new novel).

    I’ve always thought charging us extra for something that really is just part of the job was ridiculous. I’m still going to forge ahead with whittling down my reading list, but this kind of sucks. All of the books I want to borrow  (progress has been slow so far, mainly because I didn’t want to pay to get any of them out) are housed at random branches that aren’t convenient for me to get to.

    Speaking of unexpected charges…now that I’m 22, I have to start paying for my twice yearly-appointments at Family Planning. Six months sounds like a long time, but it sure feels like I run out of pills much sooner than that. (It probably didn’t help that I had to make extra appointments for my smears recently.) I’m no longer a poor student and don’t qualify for a community services card, so I’ll be charged $22.50 a pop. As far as I know, though, my prescriptions will still be subsidised to $3…or so I’m hoping.

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  • Review: The Ivy Chronicles

    Although I’ve outgrown my generic chick-lit phase, I’m still a sucker for chick-lit with intelligence, wit and preferably a twist. If that describes you, the Ivy Chronicles is worth a read – it ticks all the boxes, and even better, is based on author Karen Quinn’s real life experiences advising rich families on how to get their precious sons and daughters into the most elite preschools.

    Oh yes, and if that’s your kind of thing, it’s also very Jewish (chopped liver features prominently throughout – something I didn’t realise was a traditional Jewish dish. Then again, I don’t know a whole lot about being Jewish, apart from what little I learned in the Bible back in the days.)

    Here’s the basic gist: Ivy gets managed out of her corporate banking job, catches her husband cheating on her, moves to a tiny downmarket apartment and moves her daughters into public school. Once she thought she could sink no further – auditioning for a reality TV makeover – her best friend suggests starting up a service to help feckless parents ensure their children get into the best schools that they can. (There’s also a bit of fun along the way as you try to guess which of her two love interests will end up being THE ONE.)

    Conversational, smart and wildly unrealistic, it’s pure escapism – and best of all, it doesn’t suffer from poor editing as many other inferior books in the genre do. It’s only the series of unlikely events that drive the plotline that are right out of left field. The amounts of cash being thrown around, on the other hand, are no doubt on the money.

    In chapter two, Ivy dismally surveys her expenses and comes up with the conclusion that it’s all “boring but necessary” stuff. The paragraph takes up half a page; highlights include a $120k mortgage, $50k private school fees, $25k to charity, $22k birthday parties, $50k clothes, $12k hair, $74k servants…get the idea?

    The scary thing is, I assume New York’s well-heeled actually spend in this kind of fashion! Otherwise, it’s a hilarious look at life for the privileged Manhattan set. Best of all, I didn’t get hung up on financial envy; it’s just part of the parcel, and there’s much, much more to the book than that.

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  • Words of wisdom: Perfect Fifths

    “Everything matters so much when you’re 16. A whispered secret is an opera. A one word text is epic. A dirty look is drama, drama, draaaaamaaaa. Every minute of every day is so intense in a way that fades with time. I knew for sure that I had gotten really fucking old when thinking about all those vitally important issues from my sophomore year only made me embarrassed for my former self.” (Perfect Fifths)

    Megan McCafferty pretty much sums up my entire teenage experience in those words.

    I think I can safely say that I officially count myself a grownup. And I’m glad.

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  • SOS: Costume party

    I hate costume parties. I’m lazy. And self conscious. But one of my best friends from uni is throwing one soon, and we’re all required to dress up as our favourite book characters.

    Immediately, Jessica Darling springs to mind. But she lives in Chucks and jeans. Not all that unique. Aside from that, I can only think of Lyra from Northern Lights/Golden Compass.

    So…who are your fave book characters that I too might know and love? Jog my memory!

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  • March goals

    How did I do last month?

    Save 20 per cent of my income. Done, even beyond 20 percent. Unfortunately, it’s going to be wiped out by that tax payment, humongoid phone bill, and a bond (at least that’s refundable) for the power company. And by wiped out, I mean to the tune of almost two months’ solid saving. Booo. I’d like to hit $10k at the end of the year, so will have to get cranking on bringing more in.

    Try one new (to me) dinner recipe each week. Well, BF has been taking charge of dinners as he gets home before me, but he’s a whiz at knocking together strange yet delicious concoctions. Menu planning is sort of happening…we’re making a conscious effort to go into the supermarket with a rough outline, at least.

    Run once a week. Again, I missed one week in the aftermath of the move, but made up for it with an extra long one the week after! Plus, we now live next to a huge park with field, basketball court and tennis court. T and I have been walking over to play our version of tennis (simply getting the ball over the net counts as a win) in the evenings.

    Make an upwards career move. Did some freelancing work which may or may not lead to future opportunities. Either way, it was great for experience. In terms of the day-to-day, my new duties are all going well and I feel like I’m really getting into the groove of it.

    Donate to charity. Grr, don’t think I’ve done this since last month…the past few weeks have been so hectic. Must make up for that next month.

    I’m also sloooowly trying to get through my list of books to read (you’ll find it at the bottom of the booklist page). Most recently, I finished In My Father’s Den.

    Other books I’ve read this month and really enjoyed:

    Kindred
    Octavia Butler
    Picture this: you’re a “modern” black woman who suddenly finds herself waking up in the heyday of slavery in the American South. The premise is a bit stretched (I mean, come on, this woman suddenly starts getting sent back in time each time her ancestor’s life is in danger?) but the story itself is vivid and jarring – a powerful reminder that although slavery is behind us, it wasn’t all that long ago.

    Kane and Abel
    Jeffrey Archer
    Again, a really unlikely plot sees two starkly different men’s lives interweave as they try to best each other. Born on the same day on opposite sides of the world – one in war-stricken poverty and one in the lap of WASP luxury – fate ensures their paths are irreversibly entwined on the journey to build their individual fortune and legacy. Written 30 years ago and set more than a century ago, it reflects the views and conventions of the time, but still a flaming good read.

    Under the Rose
    Diane Peterfreund
    Sequel to Secret Society Girl (which I haven’t actually read). A tale of a secret societies among elite universities where members meet in underground tombs, call each other by code names, make friends with the other rich, well connected “knights”, go through hazing and…well…everything else pretty much sounds like what a frat/sorority is, from what I know. Except that they’re highly secret and nobody ever reveals that they belong to one. Seriously, are these for real? Because from the author blurb, it kind of sounds like they are. And I don’t know if that’s more scary or amusing.