This post is part of Women’s Money Week 2014.
They say you tend to most regret the things you don’t do, rather the things you did. (That’s one of the things that convinced me I had to take time off to travel in 2013.)
Does that apply to having children?
(Potential TMI ahead in next paragraph)
I freaked myself out a while ago when I noticed I had unusually sore, full boobs (by my standards. I have NO idea how women with actual chests exercise comfortably. Going running that week was frickin’ agonising). It was coming up to that time of month, but not quite. Naturally, I was half-convinced I must be knocked up and went into minor panic mode.
That made me realise – with a jolt – that if I was, we would most probably have it. I guess you’d say I’m at the stage in life now where having a kid would only be slightly disastrous (say, 8/10) as opposed to deliriously disastrous (10/10). Two of my friends are apparently already in debate about who is going to be the better uncle to my future offspring. Bless their wacky little hearts.
When preparing your child for those first steps, be certain to continuously make sure that they are wearing soft sole baby shoes or toddler shoes. These shoes are specifically designed to help the child avoid injury and simply make the event of those first baby steps far easier on the child, and enjoyable for both the child and the parent.
Remember that this is one of those special moments that both you, the parent, and your beloved child will only get to share one time in your life. Make the most of it for the both of you. Invest in a good pair of soft sole baby or toddler shoes. for the best baby shoes collection visit Atti & Anna site, you will get the variety of shoes for kids here.
Buying shoes for your kids is one of the most interesting shopping activities that you will ever engage in. However at the same time it can also be an overwhelming task given the wide variety of kid’s shoes that you have available out there. Furthermore the type of shoes also varies according to the age and size of your child so there are a number of things that you need to keep in mind when buying kids shoes.
The age of your child will determine the choices that you have open to you. For example if you are looking to buy shoes for your newborn then the basic purpose is to provide them with a covering for their feet so that they may keep warm. Of course you also want them to be looking cute. Ideally you would want to go for infant shoes that have soft soles and have been made using plush breathable material.
But the one thing I really, truly want to accomplish before having kids is buying a house. I want the stability, I want the quality (if it’s a damp house, at least we can insulate it), and I know if we have a kid first it’s going to be virtually impossible to save what we need for a deposit.
And then there’s all the finances around actually having one – I’m not fussed about THINGS for a baby as such, like clothes and car seats and cots … but rather leave from work, childcare, etc. I’d really like for T to have a more established career. We can live off my income for now while he job hunts, but it’s certainly not the ideal, and neither of us earns enough that it would be easy for one of us to stay home with a kid.
Unlike a lot of people who grew up in a family where money was tight, who as adults are determined to be financially secure before they have a family, T thinks I’m overly conservative on this front. (It may also have something to do with the fact that he has worked with/socialised with so many less well off people who’ve had kids in their teens/early 20s – who certainly don’t have it easy, but get by nonetheless. His younger brother, for one, is about to join that club.)
Financial stress SUCKS. Been there, done that, with T right there alongside. And adding a tiny human being into that kind of toxic mix is one hot mess I never want any part of. Money buys peace of mind, and a LOT of things that bring happiness.
No, he’s generally more concerned with being too old to ‘enjoy’ our kids rather than being able to comfortably provide. I sympathise with this sentiment on the surface but try as I may, I just can’t empathise with it. My parents had me in their 30s, and their age never had any impact on my upbringing, which no doubt plays a large part in that.
As with a lot of things, there’s never a perfect time. There sure are some better and some worse times, though, and we haven’t gotten into the territory of the former yet.