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  • On relishing the simple things

    I can go for weeks without seeing anyone but coworkers and T.

    I’m pretty boring, really.

    Can I help it that I’m not interesting in playing drinking games and getting trashed?

    Or that I decided long ago I couldn’t be effed with fake friends and don’t get invited to parties?

    I almost wish I had moved to a different city, heck, country, even, so I’d have an excuse not to have much of a social life.

    Right now, about the most regular thing on my calendar is weekly pub quiz with a team from work. And you know what – I like it that way.

    I like being able to come home, relax, cook, read or blog or do freelance work, before getting to bed at a decent hour.

    I like having my odd days off to myself, to sleep in, to run, play guitar, read the news, clean the house, buy fresh produce from the corner shop, bake, take photos. Like Shopaholly writes, even though this doesn’t sound like much, sometimes it feels like there are never enough hours. And I’m not even counting the really boring things, like clipping your nails or scrubbing the oven or making the effort to rub rosehip oil into your pigmented scars.

    I like my relatively quiet, peaceful life. This is what relaxes, recharges and fulfils me.

    And I’m not going to apologise for it.

  • A letter to myself

    blowing my nose

    Image by Gus Greeper via Flickr

    Dear Body,

    Why do you hate me so?

    I am eating better, exercising more, sleeping more and less stressed than quite possibly any other time in the last ten years. Yet this is what, the fourth? fifth? time that you have succumbed to some kind of cold/flu bug this year alone. A new record.

    You want to remind me when the seasons are changing? Your friends, the sinuses do just fine a job of that.

    Thanks to you, five days of sick leave a year just isn’t cutting it. Everytime I feel that heat in my throat, that ache in my limbs, that fuzz in my head, my heart sinks. BF tells me to man up and power through it. I always do. I go to work and soldier on. Until inevitably a couple of days later I give up and take to bed.

    If I’m lucky, you’ll strike on my ‘weekend’ and I don’t have to sacrifice precious leave. Just a clean house and general sanity. Sickness wreaks havoc on the budget; meds aren’t cheap, you don’t want to / can’t cook, and there’s nothing in the house to make soup or other comfort foods with anyway.

    You’re a weak, yellow-bellied traitor and I would gladly trade you in in a heartbeat. Especially for one with better eyesight and upper body strength.

    Buck up and get it together.

  • So young, so jaded.

    I’m tired of hearing people say “Writing is my passion.”

    Why does nobody ever say “Accounting/Chemistry/Physics/Law/Greek/Programming is my passion?”

    There seems to be something noble about aspiring to make a living through the arts.

    But in two, five, even ten years, when you’re working thankless hours for a pittance, you might be rethinking that plan.

    And maybe by that stage, you won’t be so passionate about putting pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard, anymore.

  • Things that grind my gears: Communication fails

    You might have seen my tweet earlier this week: “This is the third time I’ve gone to do a mystery shop and the damn place has closed down.”

    Someone promptly replied, saying that I should get paid nontheless.

    And it’s fair enough. I DO still get paid my fee (or most of it. And if it were simply a straight shop with fee, as opposed to an assignment where the key draw is the generous reimbursements, I wouldn’t be missing out on anything).

    But that’s not the point. On one level, it’s incredibly unprofessional of the companies involved. Seriously. Can you not keep up with which of your outlets are actually in business?

    Secondly, these assignments are food and drink related. I’m actually not doing them for the money. That’s nice, but what I get out of it is a meal out and, basically, a free date night for the two of us. And although I try to schedule assignments that slot easily into my schedule (ie, I don’t have to go out of my way to do them), it doesn’t always happen. This time, we spent ages walking around trying to locate the place, only to find it closed.It was, cold, dark and I was still somewhat sick that week. Had I known ahead of time, I’d have gone home to bed instead! This meant we had to do something else about dinner, which I had not bargained for, and was a waste of time and gas (which at least the $15 fee makes up for).

    Yes, I am aware that complaining about not getting $60 of free beer and food after all makes me an ass. But I’m a planner. And planners despise it when others’ failures derail their plans.

    My new plan of attack is to actually call the outlet before leaving to check they’re actually open. You’d think I’d have thought of this before…but, what can I say? For a smart person, I’m not the quickest off the mark.

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  • The Specsavers saga continues…

    So I know one commenter couldn’t say enough good things about Specsavers, but I can safely say that my experience has been well and truly the opposite.

    Let’s recap. I was underwhelmed by the service at my initial appointment. A week later I went back for a fitting of my new lenses – as usual, I got a phone call the night before to remind me of it.

    BUT, a couple hours before I was due to head over, I got a call about, er, making an appointment for a fitting. Apparently it hadn’t been noted that I was already booked in for one. That just screams unprofessionalism to me.

    Now, this is a brand new branch. Maybe they’re just having teething problems. But honestly, if they are so disorganised they can’t keep records of appointments straight, why would I trust them with the health of my eyes?

    That appointment went fine; I scheduled a final checkin for the following week. No phone reminder this time. I had a different optometrist this time around (for the record, he was a middle-aged Asian man, very professional and he actually seemed to listen when I answered his questions). There was a little bit of confusion when it came to placing the order for my lenses – the chart the optometrist had was different from the one the sales assistant had – but I left feeling pretty happy.

    UNTIL. Until I got a call not much later, saying that the optometrist (a locum – might explain why he seemed so much more onto it during the appointment) was unfamiliar with their suppliers, and they couldn’t actually order in the particular brand after all. I could go for a different brand, which was double the price but came with double the amount of lenses (6 instead of 3).

    The problem is, I’d still have to order two separate boxes because my eye prescriptions are different. And I ain’t going to pay over $300 in one hit for contacts when I’m not even sure how often I want to wear them! This is me, dipping my toes (eyeballs?) into the water, not committing to deep sea diving.

    Of course, I could pay them off over time, she said, as it was their mistake. But you know what, that’s just not in the budget, and I’m not willing to wear their screwup. I’m cancelling the order, and will probably buy my contacts online at some point…like, when I see a good deal. Contacts are handy when it’s raining, or incredibly sunny, but I no longer want to go out of my way for them. (Look out for an upcoming post detailing why!)

    UPDATE: In the interests of full disclosure, I have been back twice since this post. One, to cancel the order, only to be told that these were in fact the original $80 a box ones. I didn’t have time to stick around while she checked with management, though. Two, I returned to find that no, these actually were the $160 a box lenses, and finally got a refund for the $60 I’d already paid toward them. Lovely, apologetic sales assistants, but the lack of communication and organisation  – horrendous.

  • Ugh, meh, gah

    Bummer. Turns out I owe tax, even though I’m always careful to try and make sure my tax rates are correct throughout the year. Hopefully now I’m no longer receiving a student allowance, I’ll start getting refunds again.

    Even worse, I never knew anything about it until I got a notice last week informing me my payment was OVERDUE! When I called the IRD, I was told a letter was sent out in July last year. Lord only knows why it never reached me. That’s $353 down the drain.

    Then to add insult to injury, our useless head flatmate went from saying that our last week at the old place was all paid for (something he told me six months ago) to saying that everyone was in fact a few days BEHIND due to the dates we moved in.

    I’m not even going to go into the ridiculous details. Either way, whether he deliberately lied to us for the entire time we lived there, or he just had an epic communication fail, I refused to go out of my way to accommodate his clusterfuck. I told him to take it out of our deposit. And trust me, he had PLENTY of opportunities to clarify this, had he bothered to.

    (Don’t tell me that I should have been on top of all this, please. We moved right in the middle of my last semester, in a week when I was putting in double my hours at work. The deal was that I didn’t have to arrange anything or worry about anything. T and the guys were handling it all. For someone as jaded as I am, I should never have made the mistake of trusting someone else on this. My own fault. Still, at least I come out better off than if we’d stayed put and continued to let the heinous ex-flatmate suck me dry.)

    It bugs me that the last few places we’ve moved out of have been on bad terms. And in most of the places I’ve lived with other people, things have started off so well and only deteriorated from there. Part of the problem is living with people our age. Why haven’t we tried to find a place with more mature flatmates, you ask? Well, most DON’T want to live with people in their early 20s, and you’d be amazed how many specify no students or shift workers. Not to mention that they also often price people like us out of the market. Maybe a single 30-something could comfortably afford $300 rent on their own a week to live in a nice townhouse, but we certainly couldn’t.

    I’m not quite 22 and have been flatting for over four years. It feels like eternity, and I’m already over it! Living on our own is worth every cent, one-person kitchen or not.

  • Househunting. Ugh

    We are officially house hunting. Our lease is up soon, and we definitely want to live on our own.

    I really didn’t want to end up going through a property agent, because I didn’t want to pay their ridiculous letting fees – a week’s rent PLUS GST, for crying out loud.

    But I figured, if that is what we have to do to secure a nice place, so be it.

    Unfortunately, I have been let down. The day before we left for Waiheke, I spoke to one property manager about viewing a house. He never got back to me about arranging a time, despite me leaving both my numbers and email. We got back on Tuesday evening, and I logged on to TradeMe only to see that a viewing time had been added to the listing, and that viewing time was ending RIGHT ABOUT THEN. Literally. Yeah, thanks for nothing.

    Then I left a message with another agent for another house. The reply: How would 3.15 on Thursday suit you?

    Well, what do you think? How well does 3.15 on Thursday suit ANYONE?

    But apparently they only do open homes M-F, 9-4.30. No weekends. WTF.

    Yet open homes for houses on SALE are always held on Saturday and Sunday.

    Maybe PMs get paid salary rather than commission, and therefore don’t give a crap about actually being helpful to prospective tenants.

    I’d welcome being proved wrong, though. Anyone want to step up?

    Anyway, I’ve decided to forget about that place. Had the PM done their job and actually provided photos of the important stuff – kitchen and bathroom – I would be able to decide whether we really wanted the place, and whether it would be worth trying to rearrange my schedule to make it to a viewing. But she didn’t. Too bad.

    I am now even more determined to find a place with a private landlord.

    And while I’m on the topic, it never ceases to amaze me how low the quality of housing – ESPECIALLY for smaller dwellings – is around here. I want a nice one/two bedroom place with insulation, a full kitchen (stove and oven), mixer taps (not , off street parking and preferably without concrete block walls, for up to $300 a week. But that, apparently, is a tall order in Auckland. The market is so ridiculous that people are prepared to live in absolute holes sometimes.

  • A little vent

    1. Heinous flatmate texted a few weeks ago to ask for my bank details so he could start paying me back what he owes. Only about three months too late! (You may or may not recall that he owes me around $900 – a combination of bills he fell behind on at our old place, plus damages and cleaning. Trust me, I knew he was a filthy pig, but he REALLY pulled out all the stops when it came time to move. I can’t even think about it – it’s too foul to recall.)

    It’s been maybe a month now. How much have I received from him? Zilch. Nada. Nothing. I was tempted to send him abusive messages on Facebook, but I refrained. Not worth my time.

    2. Shortly after we moved and I finished with uni, I decided to pick my guitar back up after three years of neglect. I bought new strings and put them on…and then I got to the high E, and guess what? I literally COULDN’T restring it, because the entire effing bridge saddle was missing. Just gone, like that. Along with the screw. Don’t ask me how he did it, but he did. (And yes, I know it was him, because he played it. Until he broke a string and never replaced it, and now I know why!)

    3. After tossing around the C word, indulging in a bout of angry crying, and some intense surfing of the net – in which I convinced myself I’d have to order parts from overseas for a small fortune – I trotted off to Musicworks, where I originally bought my amp and guitar. A dude with massive tunnels in his ears took my details and told me they would get the part shipped in. Two weeks passed, and nothing. I called them. Another guy said they’d call back. They didn’t. I physically went in to see them.

    “They’re on their way. They’ll be here soon. We’ve got your details here so we’ll give you a call.”

    All up, it’s been well over a month, so soon better mean WITHIN THE WEEK! I may not be a serious muso, and I may not even be able to play standing up, but I’m still a paying customer, dammit.

  • Poor health costs money

    So I tried to book a doctor’s appointment today. Apparently that won’t be happening until Thursday. So I saw a nurse instead, who told me to “go spend some money” and buy hayfever tablets and some eye drops (Come on. The whole idea was that I’d get prescribed meds for my hayfever because paying what equates to a dollar a pill at the pharmacy is out and out INSANITY. Oh yeah, and my eye dryness/itchyness/gunkiness may just be allergies, or it might be a slight infection. Hooray.)

    A coworker took pity on me and gave me a Claratyne, which worked wonders…. for a few hours. I still ended with a couple handfuls of wadded up used tissues (sorry) by the end of the day. I hate my body. If only they did tradeins on that kind of thing.

    Anyway, instead of buying Loratab (which according to this extremely reasonably-priced site is the same as Claratyne), I picked up a box of Lorfast. Will the gods of name-brand medicine rain down their displeasure on me? I sure hope not. They both contain 10mg of loratadine, so I’m guessing it does exactly the same thing.

    Cost: $24 for the tablets, eye drops and depilatory cream, which I’m giving a try after all your super helpful feedback – thanks!

    Today’s outfit (added a chocolate brown scarf afterwards):


    Yesterday’s outfit, which I basically wore variations of all weekend: