They say there’s nothing like living vicariously. Well, there’s nothing like learning vicariously, either!
I’m kind of the go-to person in my circle for info when it comes to, you know, navigating the real world. Things like bonds and tenancies and job rights and whatnot. I gotta admit, sometimes I just have to gape at how out-of-touch people are. People who think I’m well on the way to buying a house (hello, I have been supporting myself for five years! You have had a car bought for you and are having your wedding paid for. I have to foot the bill for all those things, plus I want to do some serious travel before even thinking about settling down and saving another $60k or so.) Who have no idea what it takes to get a mortgage and embark on a rambling discussion about buying for $400k, then upgrading in a few years when it’s appreciated to $550k and so on. ARGH!
But the learning isn’t all one way. Nope, I’ve learned three valuable lessons from my friends.
1. Be frugal, not cheap. It’s not too much to spend $20 on a dinner out every few months. It’s not like we go to expensive places – we’re talking restaurants where mains are as low as $15 a head. We’d rather all pitch in to cover your meal than miss out on the chance to catch up.
2. Whoever holds the purse strings has you by the balls. It’s lovely that your parents are paying for your wedding, but if they pay, they get a say. Headaches ensue.
3. Never, I repeat, NEVER, go into debt to appease your gold-digging partner. Your psychotic, selfish ex will drive you away, eventually, leaving you with nothing but a bulging overdraft.
Yep, there’s nothing like learning from others’ mistakes.