Of couples and shared activities

T and I have been through a few life milestones to date. We’ve done the long-distance thing. We’ve been through a layoff. Moved more times than I care to count. One thing that hasn’t changed, though, is that we’re opposites in myriad ways.

The two things we share, really, are a love of movies and  TV (there are a few shows we watch religiously, like Game of Thrones and Bones, plus I’ve converted him to Glee and New Girl) and food (we’ve started to eat healthier over the years and I’m grateful he’s come along for the ride. We’re eating less pasta and meat, more veggies and experimenting more. While he still eats a buttload of burgers, I have to give it to him: he can, equally, binge on fruit. It’s strange).

One thing I doubt I’ll ever bring him around to is reading. But lately I’ve been trying to rope him in on a couple of things.

One is running. He was a serious athlete growing up and has talked about getting back into rugby league (though it’s likely all talk – I don’t see any real motivation there). He’s also in need of some kind of exercise routine since he stopped hanging out with his wrestling mates and going to the gym (we picked up a cheap membership off one of those daily deal sites). While I just venture out on random routes around our neighbourhood, though, he likes to actually go somewhere different – scenic, flat, a bit more of an experience.

And the other is music. A friend came over and fiddled with T’s bass amp a little while ago, and managed to get it going again. And my guitar amp, which randomly lost overdrive some months ago, got its distortion channel back just as randomly. So we’ve had a couple of evenings of trying to learn a few tunes together. May there be more.

I’ll admit that my motivations may also be somewhat selfish.

Reading requires very little of me and is my first love. These other two? They take work. I usually need some prodding along, and I’m kind of hoping T would help keep me on the straight and narrow track. Accountability, and all that.

Couples: what do you like to do together?


8 thoughts on “Of couples and shared activities

  • Reply Daisy June 22, 2012 at 02:56

    T sounds a lot like my boyfriend with the burgers and not reading and TV. I like to read, the boy likes to fish. We both like getting into a show together and eating.

  • Reply Liquid June 22, 2012 at 04:12

    Haha I guess if he were to binge on something it may as well be something healthy life fruit. My ex and I use to watch tv and go out for walks a lot. Everyone likes different things. Season 2 of GoT was too short 🙁

  • Reply DebtsnTaxes June 22, 2012 at 05:41

    The wife and I have a lot in common. We like to ride the dirtbikes together, hiking, and sit down and watch a couple tv shows that we both like.

  • Reply yael June 22, 2012 at 10:29

    hmm.. me and the husband have particular tv shows we download and watch together (game of thrones, lost, walking dead…), we like building puzzles and playing backgammon (do we sound old?!), and we really like cooking together.

    it’s good to have differences, though ;). i enjoy my reading time alone, and doing solo workouts.

  • Reply Kris @ BalancingMoneyandLife June 22, 2012 at 15:02

    We watch some of the same TV, which is good, but even better, 3 years ago he got into running with me, and now we train together for both running and triathlon events. Doing it together keeps either of us from getting upset about the amount of time required!

  • Reply Kara E June 23, 2012 at 05:34

    My husband and I like to watch a lot of the same TV shows and do outdoorsy stuff together. We also have a lot of things that we enjoy doing separately, which makes for a great balance.

  • Reply Holly June 23, 2012 at 09:29

    My husband and I watch TV together – we download shows and watch a couple of seasons over a week or two. We used to rollerblade a lot when we were dating but it’s harder with a toddler and few reliable babysitters.

  • Reply SP June 24, 2012 at 07:03

    We have a lot of shared interests. The bigger ones are travel, hiking, and backpacking. It would be nearly impossible for either of us to do much backpacking if the other wasn’t into it. We do watch some shows together, but I’m not super into TV/movies.

    I occaisionally drag him on a run with me, but he is more into cycling. I like to read, while he would rather watch a show, or (more likley) just work on his research. He’s more interested in art museums & such, but I like to go to. I’m more interested in food/cooking, but he’ll get involved.

    It’s a pretty good mix of shared and independent interests!

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