A long overdue wedding update

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Every once in a while – a little more frequently these days – I bring up wedding talk with the boy. He’s always more enthusiastic than me to get started. Now that I am off shifts and weekends, I said we can *casually* start scouting for locations. I anticipate finding the right venue will take some time (it doesn’t have to be in Auckland, either), particularly as we are budget-conscious.

Other things decided by me so far:

  • My ring will be a ruby ring, which I will wear on my right hand.
  • My bridal party will either consist of his two nieces (which means I’ll be able to pay for their dresses, and pick whatever colour I want) and possibly my best girlfriend as maid of honour (which is a maybe) – or just my dudes. My three best guy friends have always been there for me. And while I love the idea of girltalk and getting ready together, I am also aware I’m not really one of those females, and will need that alone time before spending an entire day in the limelight surrounded by people. My guys can always be there for company if I need it. Did I mention one of them bought me this cute notebook for wedding brainstorming?
  • There will be no train, veil or high heels involved. There will be shoulder straps and pure white (no cream or off-white). I will probably need to start looking at dresses sometime soon โ€“ I want to ask T’s mum to make it, but I’m still going to need to try on some and get inspiration.
  • I want it all in one place to reduce hassle/logistics, so the venue will probably not be a church

Now, food could be a battle. T has thrown in the idea of a hangi-type feast –ย  roast pig in the backyard, etc, which is a bit too bogan for my tastes. Um, and I don’t even like pork much (plus I have vego friends).

I kind of like the idea of an all-dessert menu (which he has both embraced and poured cold water on, on two separate occasions).

We’re also contemplating self-catering, depending on how small the guest list is and what we actually want to serve. I guess that decision will be made a lot further down the track.

As to dates? For me, the honeymoon comes straight after the wedding – not negotiable – so our date is going to depend on the destination, essentially. I think we want to do Italy and Greece, either in spring or autumn (which would be the opposite season here.) I like the idea of the double bonus: getting married in off season, and travelling in the off season. Let’s say we get married in April or May – that’s not peak wedding season anymore to my knowledge, and it’s not peak tourist season in Europe either. And no, I don’t mean next year. I’m not insane.

What am I missing at this (very nascent) stage, guys? Any helpful sage words?

12 thoughts on “A long overdue wedding update

  • Reply Maggie September 13, 2011 at 01:02

    That’s a nice gift from your male friend ๐Ÿ™‚

    I like the sound of your wedding plans so far – especially the all-dessert menu~ I’m not planning on marrying anytime soon but nice to read your ideas, I still gotta find my potential husband!

  • Reply Stephanie September 13, 2011 at 05:05

    If you want some ideas, here’s how a Chinese-American wedding goes:

    -The whole thing takes place at a big restaurant with, and people wear western clothing.
    -There may or may not be some sort of western ceremony, with someone who possibly works at the restaurant playing the role that a minister would usually play.
    -There is a huge 10+ course meal of Chinese food. Dessert is the last 1 or two courses
    -And it ends with a dance party.

  • Reply Little Miss Moneybags September 13, 2011 at 05:58

    Can I ask why you decided to wear your ring on your right hand? I also have a non-standard stone in my ring (amethyst) but I wear it on the traditional left-hand ring finger. My thinking was that if it wasn’t there, people wouldn’t know what it was, so there didn’t seem to be much point to wearing one at all.

    • Reply eemusings September 13, 2011 at 10:32

      I don’t wear any jewellery regularly except my engagement ring. I’ve always wanted a ruby ring, so I figure why not get one as my wedding ring? Wearing two rings on one finger just feels/looks strange to me – wearing it on the same finger on the other hand feels more balanced. Slightly OCD of me, but that’s how I roll.

  • Reply Kara September 13, 2011 at 09:08

    What about flowers/a bouquet?

    • Reply eemusings September 13, 2011 at 10:30

      Mm, yeah, I might skip those too. Don’t much care for flowers.

  • Reply Amber from Girl with the Red Hair September 13, 2011 at 10:34

    Sounds like you’re figuring things out! We are doing a small honeymoon right after the wedding (basically just staying on the coast for the week) and then a bigger one (probably Mexico or Hawaii) in the winter!

    Wedding planning is actually quite fun once you get into it ๐Ÿ™‚ I’ve started enjoying planning ours anyways!

  • Reply Stephanie September 13, 2011 at 11:44

    Wedding planning can be so fun if you let it be! I’m getting married in April myself (though I’ve heard it actually is peak wedding time, at least here in Florida), but once we found the location, I have just let everything else follow along with that. I’m with you on taking the honeymoon right after the wedding. It wouldn’t be much of a honeymoon any other way. Have fun planning and keep posting! It’s always fun to see what other brides are doing.

  • Reply Investing Newbie September 13, 2011 at 13:52

    So when exactly are you planning on getting married then? I figured one would first pick a date and back into everything else (venue, honeymoon, etc)

    • Reply eemusings September 13, 2011 at 14:37

      Like I say, the honeymoon is far more important to me and it needs to come straight after the wedding, so that’s going to dictate the season. Next step is to figure out pricing for the trip, as that will also impact when we can go. So we’re looking at spring or autumn. As to the exact date, we’ll figure that out once we find a venue. Probably the earliest would be our spring 2012 (a year from now). But more likely sometime in 2013 or even beyond…But it will happen, eventually! I am the laxest bride to be ever.

  • Reply Stephany September 13, 2011 at 15:01

    I really love your approach to wedding planning. Like… the Anti-Bridezilla. ๐Ÿ˜‰ I do want something traditional once I marry but I know I want to keep things really simple.

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