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  • Link love (Powered by worthy words and group karaoke)

    Over the past few years, I feel like my vocabulary has severely languished. I used to read like a fiend. Then I got into chick lit, and went to university – and I seriously did not have the time to read. When I did, I just wanted to relax – usually with an undemanding romance or crime fiction.

    Now I’m trying to read 100 books this year, and really branch out. Catching up on some classics, and giving new, creative authors a go. Some of these are challenging, to say the least. I’m dog-earing plenty of pages, and Googling words when I next get to a computer.

    I also signed up to A Word A Day last year, and have been getting one new word each morning in my inbox. Some are plain ridiculous and I’ll never use again, but some I keep around for reference.

    Thing is, my brain doesn’t seem to want to take these new words on. I can’t get them to stick!

    Do you have any good memory tricks?

    LIFE

    Sandy gets a little riled up by some blatant stereotyping.

    The minefield of dating has Andhari a bit flustered.

    Sometimes we need to shed the cloak of anonymity in the big city, writes NYC Love Addict.

    Meanwhile, Lesley talks anonymity and finding the right balance when blogging.

    It’s true, Cordelia: Even revolutionaries have to do chores.

    Her Every Cent Counts ponders city vs suburban living.

    Laura from Stratejoy talks about making daily life a little more like a holiday.

    No matter how long you’ve been together, it’s still nice to go on the odd date, writes 20 and Engaged.

    And sometimes bribery works, too, says A Lotta Lettuce.

    Here are 10 not-so-obvious things to pack for a long trip, care of Alexis Grant.

    Maternal instinct is funny, isn’t it? There’s something about those tiny little hats, socks, dresses, shirts, playsuits that turn the best of us clucky.

    Laura adds up her “instead-ofs” and explains why the non-traditional accomplishments matter too.

    E-bay expert Lindy shares her best tips for selling your stuff online.

    Over at Eat Move Write, a lively discussion on flirting while in a relationship.

    And Yes and Yes offers an insight into what it’s like living on the streets.

    FOOD

    This was cute and reminded me a little of my younger days… Dinner: a Love Story explains how to make one meal fit all.

    Lisa asks: What makes a foodie, exactly?

    Pizza dip!!! How good does that look?

    WORK

    Two great posts from Life Without Pants on kicking Mondays to the curb, and work vs play. He quotes a great Forbes blog post, which pretty much sums up my perspective on the topic.

    “…This absurd axiom suggests that you can simply take what you already love, turn it into something for which you get paid (meaning, you have clients and bosses and deadlines and obligations…) and it won’t ever feel like anything other than that thing you love.

    This is a blatant, hurtful lie that far too many people fall for. And they end up feeling like something is wrong with them, when really something is wrong with the idea they’ve been sold…”

    Amen. This is exactly the same conclusion I reached.

    Moving on. I found this fascinating: What military and civilian PR pros can teach each other, via Journalistics.

    I’m not real good with criticism. Kid gloves, please. But if you’re like me, Zen Habits explains how to handle it gracefully.

    Ms Career Girl is leaving the world of corporate finance at 26. Congrats!

    Penelope Trunk talks about the new rules of self-publishing.

    Good management involves finding out what’s not getting done, according to Alison at Ask A Manager.

    Jess at Makeunder My Life says it’s a good thing to hate your job… honestly.

    A great post from Passive Panda about how to email important people. I’ve said it before…they need to teach email etiquette in school!

    Three months on, Budgets Are Sexy is still “unemployed” and thriving!

  • My first 10k

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    Running a 10k was one of my goals this year. And although I didn’t specifically state it then, I wanted to run it in under an hour.

    WELL, I DID!

    *commence celebrations*

    It was, as most things are with me, a bit of a clusterfuck. I left work early, got changed in the bathroom, and snuck out to the bus stop. If you’ve ever used the maxx.co.nz site, you’ll know how awful it is. But I never dreamed it would actually direct me to the wrong bus stop. When I got there, the stop was for a totally different route, which DID NOT pass by the Domain. Luckily, the Link bus came to the next stop, so I hopped on that.

    Traffic was awful. Then our bus stopped completely on Nuffield St, behind another Link bus. The driver asked us to hop out and get onto the other one instead. At this point I had less than 10 minutes to get to the Domain.

    When I got off, I saw a pack of people clearly dressed for a run, gathered across the intersection. Obviously I’d missed the registration point down by the grandstand. In my one stroke of luck, the “walk” light went green and I sprinted across toward them….JUST as the whistle blew and the pack took off.

    Shoulders slumped, I kept going, and caught up to the whistle-blower who was walking back down to the grass.

    “I take it I’m too late?”

    “Oh, no, they’ve only just left. For the 10k, you mean? Here, let me take your bag. Off you go!”

    Bless his heart.

    I’ve always been a bit competitive, so running with others definitely pushed me harder than otherwise. All was going well…I had a great pace going, and there were people ahead of me I could follow. Remember, I had no idea where I was going, having nearly missed the race entirely. There weren’t big markers everywhere, as these are really casual affairs held every week during the summer.

    After two laps, I followed the one woman still in my line of vision to the finish line. The clock read 38 minutes. And I wasn’t feeling all that exhausted. Hmmm.

    “Did you run the whole 10k?” asked one weathered, grizzly man. (Men like him – albeit very sinewy and fit – made up the vast majority of the runners. There were a few around my age, but I think they were mostly students from Waiuku, there with their teacher).

    “Um. Maybe I got lost?” I offered.

    “It’s three laps around,” he explained. “…But you don’t have to …”

    “Oh, but I will,” I replied and took off. I came here to run 10k and that’s what I’m going to do!

    Fool. I’ve never been very good with judging distances…obviously. I knew I couldn’t slow down at all on this final circuit, not when I’d done two-thirds in just under 40 minutes.

    And I made it. In 57 minutes.

    I’m happy with that. And I only stopped at one point for about 15 seconds to stretch – the rest I maintained a pretty even speed.

    But now, I’m pretty sure I never want to run a race further than 10k. I’m not a marathoner. And that’s okay with me.

  • Friday Five: Things I’m looking forward to

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    • One of my best friends is apparently moving to One Tree Hill soon (just around the corner from us). Yay! All our friends and family still live out west, so it’ll be nice to have somebody else central.
    • Easter. Because I’m taking the weekend off. Which means I actually get time to spend with my fiance.
    • Cooler nights when we won’t need to keep the fan on all night.
    • Getting my guitar amp fixed (which I need to actually arrange…)

    What are you looking forward to?

  • On the fringe

    Not much of a post, really. Just a small gripe. Why must I have such a huge forehead? It practically requires me to have a fringe to hide its dominance. And regular trims (which I often do myself, and despite my best efforts, I always clog up the drain). And sometimes, it simply refuses to behave. Witness some of its many incarnations, particularly its stringier, untameable ones in the bottom row:

    Are you a fringe person? What the hell do you do on bad hair days? (Please don’t say hats – they NEVER work on me and I hate the feel of things on my head)

  • Money, money, money…

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    Life is expensive.

    I have big plans for the next few years. Which is why I decided it was time to map out a rough savings plan to the end of 2012.

    • At least $10k for one big overseas trip
    • At least $3k for the South Island
    • At least $5k for a wedding (less would be ideal, of course…)
    • And a yet- to-be-specified honeymoon amount (obviously a trip to New Caledonia would cost a lot less than a trip to the Greek and Italian coasts…)

    Beyond that, we’re looking at $60k for a down payment. If we can get away with 10 or 15 per cent, then you know what? I’m going to take it. But I’m running on a 20 per cent assumption here, and really, the more we can put down, the better.

    Also, further travel. Maybe another $15k for a couple more big international trips?

    Right now, I don’t want to say this is doable. Or that it’s not. We may both have some changes coming up career-wise. All I can do is keep saving as much as possible. Hustling as much as possible. $1000 a month…

    Key Points:

    I still don’t know what we’re doing for our first big trip. I had plans to do a US road trip this year, but it’s going to have to be pushed back till next Aug/Sep (that’s the season I’m aiming for). Or maybe we’ll do Europe, or do a bit of a round-the-world trip.

    In the meantime, this year I think we’ll try for a roughly two-week summer trip around the South Island.

    As for the wedding, I’m still not planning on starting serious planning at all this year. But as always, starting early on research. Of course I’m paying more attention now to any wedding posts on the blogs I already read, but if you have any favourite wedding-specific ones, let me know! Budget-minded ones are even better. Someone on Twitter recently linked to a really neat wedding site, devoted to kind of quirky/unique weddings, but stupidly I didn’t bookmark it. I do have a few thoughts though, mainly on music (the playlist is the thing I’m most pumped about, and it’s actually the one thing I put any thought into pre-proposal).

    $5,000 isn’t much, I know, but I would really like to not go over that if possible. We’ll see. I already know I won’t be doing much – if anything – in the way of favours and decorations and flowers. They’re not at all important to me, and the people I care about won’t care about them either. I’m totally happy with a custom playlist off an iPod, and I may ask T’s mum to make my dress. I don’t intend on having a big bar tab, either – I’m repeating myself, but my side don’t really drink, while his side are a bit too fond of it sometimes. Limits are key. Which is also why we’re thinking a daytime do, and not necessarily on a weekend.

    I am so grateful at this point for blogging! Imagine if I had never discovered the blogosphere. I would probably waste money on bridal magazines (or borrow them from my one engaged friend) which would in no-way help me, a frugalista on a shoestring.

  • Another engagement post. Yup.

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    I had a wee giggle when some of you said you’d never had your engagement photo/announcement in the paper. Maybe it’s an American thing, or maybe I read the wrong papers, but I’ve never seen one with pictures! Or do you mean in the social pages, or something? The thought never crossed my mind. No, these would be purely for me. We have very few photos of us as a couple, let alone decent ones (offhand, I can only think of two I like. And we’ve been together more than five years).

    I would really like some nice pro or semi-pro ones, even if they’re only done on my little dSLR (T’s sister and her partner had his sister shoot their family when she came for a visit from the States, and all the pictures look beautiful. It’s funny what someone who knows their way around a dSLR can achieve.) But that can probably wait till we start scouting for a wedding photographer.

    I have my ring back, and I’m actually wearing it. None of the big name jewellers would even touch it. Staff would look sideways at the three-piece bridge, slide it onto the sizing horn, silently count the number of sizes it would have to lose, and shake their heads. But Carats, a boutique, indie place where they handcraft everything, took it on. Just as I was about to give up and wear it round my neck! The guys were lovely and it only cost me $500 – I highly recommend them! (T darkly said that it was probably so cheap as they would get a fair bit of gold out of the band – yes, the new band he paid to have put on his grandmother’s ring – because the difference between the original and the resized version was literally half the length of the sizing horn. I was scared to count the number of sizes in between.)

    But for a girl who hardly ever wears any jewellery, putting a ring on every day and taking it off at night is weird. (I think we all know what happens to women who wear theirs 24/7 – they get them cut off their fingers on their deathbed.) It also feels a bit unbalanced. Perhaps I need another ring…? One for either my index finger on the same hand, or else the same finger on the other hand. I’m thinking a ruby ring…my favourite colour, the colour of love, my birthstone. Although from the scouting I’ve done, this will be harder to find than I thought. I like understated jewellery. Yet, everything these days is so blingy, so sparkly, so OTT. ESPECIALLY coloured gems. All coloured rings are tacky, tacky, tacky! I just want a simple, silver band with a little plain ruby on top. Nice and subtle.

    But there’s no rush; after all, I have a lot to save for. And for those who wanted to see it, I’ve uploaded some photos to Facebook.

  • 7 Deadly Sins – Greed

    Greed. Seven worldly material desires.

    1.     A leather jacket. Soft, buttery brown.

    2.     A lifetime supply of cheese?

    3.   Ooh, and brown boots!

    4.     Um. Two round-the-world tickets for a once-in-a-lifetime trip?

    5.  An acoustic guitar. Why not? My first was an acoustic…my brother now has it.

    6.     A new amp. Mine just lost its overdrive, and I need to get it fixed.

    7. A car that never gives us any trouble. Ever. In fact, make it two as I’ll probably need my own eventually.

    Day 1 – Pride. Seven great things about yourself.
    Day 2 – Envy. Seven things you lack and covet.
    Day 3 – Wrath. Seven things that piss you off.
    Day 4 – Sloth. Seven things you neglect to do.
    Day 5 – Greed. Seven worldly material desires.
    Day 6 – Gluttony. Seven guilty pleasures.
    Day 7 – Lust. Seven love secrets.

    This was actually just as hard, if not harder than, Day 1 – Pride. Believe it or not.

  • Link love (Powered by good reads and wine cellars)

    Crazy week. Crazy fortnight. Crazy month. And it doesn’t look like getting much better; work is stepping up (although things should be quieter on the side gig front); T just bought a secondhand motorbike (so there are about a million things to organise and pay for…compliance, re-registration, insurance, attire, licence, etc) and I think we’re going to try for an engagement party Easter weekend (I’m taking leave. We want to hold it before it starts to get properly cold and rainy, as it’s not going to be indoors).

    I am not a high energy individual, so working three totally different shifts this week took its toll (unsurprisingly, the 6am start was the toughest). What’s the craziest shift you’ve ever done?

    LIFE

    Money Rabbit on fitness training, nerd style!

    Since getting back from Wellington and seeing how things could be done, I found this post by Carlee with ideas on how to revamp a city very timely.

    Meanwhile, Walking in Heels reminds us all to love where we live. (I do, I do! My schedule just makes it hard sometimes. Sure, I blog a lot, but I blog like I read – in snatches, stolen wherever possible.)

    Blonde on a Budget realises that friends and family are her biggest priority.

    The Everyday Minimalist’s tips on time management.

    Some things never lose sentimental value, as Dana of Pushing Thirtyy finds out.

    You can never really tell what’s true and what’s not on a blog. Neurotic Workaholic lists some of the things she’d lie about…

    SleepyJane on tattoos and being judged by others.  (Confession: T wants more. It hasn’t been an issue seeing as they’re beyond the budget, and will continue to be for sometime – see motorbike reference above – but we talk about it from time to time and haven’t really come to any agreement.)

    T is great at easing tension after arguments. That’s why I loved this post on Eat Move Write by Jasmine’s hubby on the key to harmony.

    Lesley shares her top 10 peeves when it comes to books.

    Financial Samurai recounts some tales of being bullied. (Despite being a total nerd, I was never actively picked on. For that, I’m grateful)

    Yes and Yes features a guest post by Amanda Lee (whose blog no longer seems active!), who used to be a phone sex worker.

    I think we’re all guilty of romanticising our situations from time to time, like Clare – after all, we tend to remember the good, rather than the bad.

    Geek in Heels’ parents get with the technological times, with some funny results.

    Emily Jane shares some beautiful footage from her wedding.

    And Hannah Katy outdoes herself with this soulful piece on finding closure.

    FOOD

    A simple Italian beef casserole, via the $120 Food Challenge.

    Rina’s blueberry crisp. (If I can bring myself to pay $6 minimum for fresh or frozen blueberries, I’m making this. Or maybe I can find canned ones…)

    Need a fast and furious dinner? Try Fru-girl’s last-minute noodles.

    Maybe like me you’ve never been near a dried bean. File Jules’ guide to working with dried beans, then.

    WORK

    Six common writing mistakes and how to fix them, via Writer Mag (I’ve definitely done the first, but luckily, called early rather than late. Not that it mattered as the phone wasn’t answered, either time…)

    Alexis Grant tackles a reader question about juggling multiple Twitter accounts.

    Working Girl blogs about balancing work and working out.

    Bri at Stratejoy wonders if writing should be what she pursues, or whether that would dim its lustre.

    Carol Tice has a guest post on how content mills can actually be a good stepping stone to a writing business.

    Krystal shares her schedule and talks about time management for freelancers.

    MONEY

    Do you have to spend in order to save on groceries? Shawanda from You Have More Than You Think thinks so.

    Like me, Well Heeled has bag lady syndrome.

    Little Miss Moneybags ruminates on the varying levels of support we get from our parents.

    And finally, a special mention to the winners of the Yakezie writing contest!!

  • 7 Deadly Sins – Sloth

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    Sloth. Seven things you neglect to do.

    1.     Floss. Never did it growing up, and it’s a habit I can’t pick up.

    2.     Exercise. I try to run twice a week and do a few exercises at home on the floor, but I’ll be the first to admit I don’t always manage it.

    3.     Socialise. A social creature, I am not.

    4.     Drive. We now have an auto, so I really have no excuse. I need to drive more, get my skills and confidence up, and maybe get my full sometime this decade.

    5.     Tidy up. I think I am reasonably clean, but I’m not neat. I leave clothes everywhere and my desk is always a disaster zone. Putting things away is my least favourite chore.

    6.     Smile. I’m not as scowly as I used to be, but I’m far from Little Miss Sunshine…

    7.     Dust. I hate dust; it makes me sneeze. Hence, I hate dusting. But it’s gotta be done, right?

    Day 1 – Pride. Seven great things about yourself.
    Day 2 – Envy. Seven things you lack and covet.
    Day 3 – Wrath. Seven things that piss you off.
    Day 4 – Sloth. Seven things you neglect to do.
    Day 5 – Greed. Seven worldly material desires.
    Day 6 – Gluttony. Seven guilty pleasures.
    Day 7 – Lust. Seven love secrets.

    

  • 7 Deadly Sins –Wrath

    Wrath: 7 things that piss me off…

    1.     Slackers. People who don’t pull their weight annoy the hell out of me. It screams incompetence.

    2.     People who retell the same stories over and over. It’s funny, I have a terrible memory, but for some reason, not when it comes to hearing tales of drunkenness, travel, or whatever. I also despise retelling stories, myself. I much prefer telling them once, to everyone who needs to know, as opposed to multiple times for different groups.

    3.     Screwtop jars. They are always way too tight for my weak wrists to wrestle open.

    4.     People who can’t drink sensibly. Or who know their limits, but insist on exceeding them.

    5.     Hobags – gender neutral. I don’t care if you’re male or female, slutting around isn’t cool.

    6.     Slow internet. I live in New Zealand, sadly.

    7.     Being ripped off. Again, I live in New Zealand, so this happens frequently.

    Day 1 – Pride. Seven great things about yourself.
    Day 2 – Envy. Seven things you lack and covet.
    Day 3 – Wrath. Seven things that piss you off.
    Day 4 – Sloth. Seven things you neglect to do.
    Day 5 – Greed. Seven worldly material desires.
    Day 6 – Gluttony. Seven guilty pleasures.
    Day 7 – Lust. Seven love secrets.